The holidays are upon us, and, unfortunately, so is a recession. Times are tough, wallets are tighter, but you want to give your one and only something to show how much you care this Christmas or Hanukkah. One writer explains how she gave—and received—the very best gifts without spending a dime.
'Tis the season for that annual event we approach with a mix of trepidation, horror and curiosity. It's a time when CEOs do the Electric Slide, when cocktail weenie sales soar and professional reputations are made or sorely lost. Ah, the office holiday party. You know the protocol, but just in case, we've pulled together tips for maintaining your composure and setting limits.
The art of flirtation and seduction is as fine an arts as any. Whether you're a seasoned seductress, or you've been made to feel foolish by flirtation faux pas, check out these articles to master fail-safe flirting and sure-fire seduction:
Happy Friday! This week on YourTango we learned that cuddling can reduce work stress, women want flings with men who have facial scars, Grandma might soon be receving sex ed, and which romantic movies are worth your time this holiday season. We visited with a celibate stripper, found out how to answer Aunt Maeve's pesky questions about your relationship (or lack thereof), realized that French women know everything and delved into the television vs. sex debate. Additionally, we discovered which celebrities have foot fetishes, who the best Hollywood babies really are (sorry Forbes!) and the details of Madonna's divorce settlement. What will we learn next week? Visit us then to find out...
Candlelight, red wine, freshly made pasta. Flirting at a small table in a corner infrequently visited by the waiter. Such are the makings of a great date. But not if you can't eat what they're serving. What if you must start with a 10-minute interrogation: Can the scaloppini be prepared without a dusting of flour? Can I forgo the bed of pasta and just have the red pepper salmon? Embarrassing. Your waiter takes a few trips to the kitchen to speak with the chef, and your date progresses in fits in starts. And – let's be honest – you might seem a little high-maintenance. Here, how to make two culinary palates work.
Escape #1: Cowboys Are My Weakness Who: Cowgirls at heart What: Mountain Sky Guest Ranch’s Wild West Women Adventure Where: Paradise Valley, Montana Why: Grab your Wranglers and ten gallon hat—and get ready for your own version of The Simple Life (hot cowboys included!). At the ranch, spend your days riding and hiking on 6,000+ acres of mountain land and bonding with other women.
Politics: you can't escape 'em. Even if you're not a die-hard CNBC junkie you probably have an opinion about the 2008 Presidential election, and if you don't, well that's a political decision as well. And no matter how hard you try, affairs of state will enter into your relationship in some form or another. So whether you're thinking about discussing Sarah Palin with your new beau, aruging about voting with your old man or wondering what goes on between Barack and Michelle, YourTango's got you covered. Check out our stories below to find out about the intersection of politics and relationships.
A story about a dysfunctional relationship; between a recently divorced woman and her bedroom closet. Part of moving on for her meant ditching the old her and that woman's wardrobe. Losing wait and a general make over were only part of it, there was a sentimentality attached to her old clothes. So, as Katrina Heron began to appreciate the importance of clothes she decided that getting over the divorce meant reclaiming her sexuality by dressing sexy and dressing single meant feeling single.
It's the topic that every male in a relationship tries his best to avoid: What would you physically change about your partner? It turns out that "how do I look?" is a rather loaded question. Christopher Dickey explores the concept of body image and how it reflects on a relationship, and how flaws can sometimes be beautiful. Along the way he learns that "you look fine" is never an acceptable answer to any question.
Dave Itzkoff explain his profound distaste for Breakfast at Tiffany's Holly Golightly. And it's not just Holly herself but the archetypal movie heroine that she spawned. Was Audrey Hepburn so convincing? Or are capricious women just looking for a heroine wherever they can find her? Or are all of these just ugly female stereotypes?
Everyone from my mother to Mr. Rogers had articulated some version of 'beauty is only skin-deep.' What really mattered, they said, was inner beauty. But the concept of inner beauty was tough to comprehend. That other famous platitude, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," suggests that there's always someone who will think someone else is beautiful, and always someone who will think that same someone else is ugly. In other words, everyone is beautiful, and everyone isn't—so objective beauty doesn't exist. It's a nice thought, but scientists have told us for years that humans instinctively equate facial and bodily symmetry with attractiveness, because it connotes health.
Taking a trip with a significant other can be either disastrous or delightful. This trip started out as the latter, became the former, and then may have gone back to the latter by the time all was said and done. Taking a long, overseas vacation with a boyfriend of 5 months was a dicey proposition to start with. Here, the author, Kendall Morgan, lets us know the ins and outs of her first vacation with a new boyfriend and what it taught her about him; he may be a keeper.
We live in an age of intricate technologies, 24/7 entertainment and sensory overload—so why is it so tough to think up creative dates? Of course, early in a relationship, you're so smitten that even dinner at Denny's seems exciting. But when you've done the ho-hum and the humdrum—dinner, a movie, bowling—you crave new ideas to keep things interesting. Here are ten ideas for great—and mostly cheap—dates that will not only entertain but allow you to get to know your mate in a whole new way.
Women aren’t the only ones dissatisfied with their bodies. Studies show a growing trend toward negative body image and self esteem. A recent Harvard study shows that, eating disorders among men are on the rise across the country and this scary trend seems to be going under the radar, because men are less likely to talk about it. "I'm not the only man who wishes his body looked more like Michael Jordan's and less like a vat of pudding. A recent survey showed that only 18 percent of men are happy enough with their physiques that they wouldn't change them."
What's the significance of your wedding ring? And what does it mean if you take it off? One woman found that taking off her wedding band allowed her a freedom she didn't feel in her troubled marriage. "I'm back from a girlfriend getaway in paradise. Traveling with a best friend off the beaten path awakened joy in me and soothed my soul, but it also left me wondering: Why can't I capture that sense of fun and wonder in everyday life? Why do I feel so stuck here in Boston, yet I was free as a bird in Mexico? One idea: I took off my wedding ring while traveling. I think my naked ring finger gave rise to more open responses and deeper interactions than I would have otherwise experienced."