Dirty Dancing ruined my love life. I'm not sure how one movie could so deeply affect me. Maybe it was because I saw the movie when I was young and impressionable, or maybe it's just that I watched the film so often that my VHS copy actually broke in the VCR. All I know is that the lessons I learned about love in the summer of 1987 set me up for some massive disappointments later in life.
In years following my last serious relationship and tortured breakup, I became an online dating veteran. For two years, I went on countless first dates, a handful leading to a second, none leading to romance. I shed no tears about these strike-outs, having already found plenty of substitutes for love. The painful end to the long-term relationship led me first to the glory of take-out and then to television, culminating in renting DVDs of the Sci Fi show Battlestar Galactica. For me, there was no higher paradise than sitting on my floor, eating Ethiopian take-out, and watching my characters go through their torrid emotional ups and downs (while I, coincidentally, experienced none). Little did I know then that watching Battlestar Galactica would, in part, spell the end of my online dating career.
Mary Ann Winkowski communicates with "earthbound ghosts," those who have yet to cross into the white light (yes, Winkowski says, it exists). She's not to be confused with a medium—a person who can communicate with those who've already "crossed over." YourTango caught up with her recently via phone, to find out what relationship insight she could share, given her unique ability to talk to ghosts.
As the latest Harry Potter movie installment, Harry Potter and the Half-blood Prince, hits theaters, teenage hormones are running at an all-time high at Hogwarts. The sixth book in J. K. Rowling's insanely popular series took us to a major turning point in Potter and Co.'s love lives as Harry's relationship with Ginny develops and Hermione and Ron realize their antagonism was really amoré. In honor of the Potter nerd in all of us, we re-imagined eight magical objects from the Harry Potter world in the context of how they could benefit our not-always-magical love lives.
We each attract a certain type of man, depending on how we carry ourselves. Don't expect to have a respectful man if you, for instance, curse like a sailor. Such behavior always reflects more negatively upon you than it does to those you're cursing. As for other important aspects of your life, if you don't have any goals, principles, power, or worth, then what makes you believe you can attract a man who has any of those qualities? You are what you attract, whether you like it or not. Contrary to what you may believe, we are not designed to follow the lead of men. They are made to follow us, at least when it comes to male and female relations.
I just celebrated my first birthday as a married woman. But instead of enjoying a romantic dinner with my husband, I was at sea with a long-lost crush who re-entered my life last year. My husband knows about him, and gave me his blessing to go with him on the three-day cruise to the Bahamas. He actually met the guy once, at a club on Canal Street six years ago. He's been supportive of this reunion, even when I came home giddy from a night out with him, or when I flew to Portland, Maine, in March for a spring rendezvous. My husband says he understands that this man was in my life long before the two of us met. He knows we have history. But more than anything, he didn't mind me sailing off into the sunset with the guy because we weren't alone. Far from it. Joe brought four of his buddies along on the cruise. And a bunch of other women. Two thousand of them, all just like me. The other man is Joe McIntyre, one of the New Kids on the Block. Yes, that pop group from the '80s. The boy band that begat Backstreet, 'N Sync, and the Jonas Brothers. But this is not a story about being a groupie. I am not a slut, a sad sack, or a stalker. And yet, the most obvious word for what I am—"fan"—doesn't seem to cut it. Fan doesn't encompass the way these five men have influenced my career, my ideas of love, and even my move to the United States.
My first love was a celebrity. I grew up with MTV, watching Madonna roll around in a bridal gown and Billy Idol dancing with himself on a dingy roof. But there was one man that I loved from the very first moment I heard him sing: Michael Jackson. I can't tell you the moment I first saw him or the day I decided I loved him. I was about five years old and, in addition to my cast albums of Annie and Grease, I regularly put "Thriller" on my Fisher Price record player in my yellow bedroom in Brooklyn, NY.
When it came to my dating life, I wasn't sure I should listen to Patti Stanger, host of Bravo's The Millionaire Matchmaker and author of the book Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate. Could someone hoisting a gold, ruby-encrusted Cupid's arrow on her book cover, whose ample bosom was jammed into a white Liberace pantsuit, help me, an outdoorsy New Yorker with an A cup seeking a sweet, humble, non-cologne wearing guy with no roommates?
We've all heard the rumors—celebrities hooking up with their partners on Dancing With The Stars. Occasionally it's true. Actress Shannon Elizabeth and dance partner Derek Hough started dating when she appeared on season six and are still together. Mario Lopez and Karina Smirnoff made for heavy-duty tabloid fodder for nearly two years, until she learned there were other partners on his dance card.
What's your favorite romantic movie—Gone With The Wind? West Side Story? The Notebook? Yawn. Sure, those are great, heart-swelling films, but you've probably seen them. If you're looking for something a little different, check out our list of love stories that the Academy, in its infinite wisdom, somehow missed. Below are twenty-five gems—some you'll have heard of and some will be brand new, but all of them will leave you enchanted—and maybe a bit teary.
In our series on the 2008 presidential couples; Tango explores the Obamas. Barack and Michelle met each other at a law firm; he worked for her. Now he's one of the most famous first-term Senator of all time. But they're still partners and would likely make a formidable White House pair. Tango explores whether or not they are the best suited of the front-running candidate to call themselves Mr. and Mrs. President. "They met in 1989, while he was still a student at Harvard Law School (where he was the first black president of the prestigious Harvard Law Review). Barack was interning for a Chicago law firm, and Michelle was his summer supervisor. She later told a reporter that she fell for him 'for the same reason many other people respect him: his connection with people.' Throughout his political career, she has been an asset. A Princeton grad, she's a Chicago native from the city's South Side. That association helped him win seats both in the Illinois legislature and the Senate. Now an executive at the University of Chicago Hospitals, she's savvy in dual roles as career woman and political wife. In an interview in The New Yorker, she was frank about the stress of the latter role: 'It's hard, and that’s why Barack is such a grateful man.'"
What if your future husband was a guy from your past, and finding him came with a deadline? That's the premise of The Ex List, a relationship dramedy premiering Oct. 3 that's based on a hit Israeli series. Elizabeth Reaser (last seen as Ava, Dr. Karev's patient-turned-lover on Grey's Anatomy) stars as the aptly named Bella Bloom, a florist who gets surprising news from a psychic. She's already dated "the one," and she's got a year to find him or she'll never marry.
Regardless of your political stance, Sarah and Todd are paving the way for a new breed of couple. In a country rampant with divorce, it's usually the successful female/supportive male combo that's first to hit the rocks. But Sarah and Todd, high school sweethearts who quickly filled their home with a brood, seem to defy the odds. How do they do it? Todd Palin's equal parts masculinity and sensitivity might have something to do with it.
As we approach the 2008 presidential election, we're naturally inquisitive about our future leader: his standpoint on the economy, his views on foreign policy and his choice of running mate. Many are also curious to know what his relationship with his wife (or potential other woman) is like. The secret love lives of our presidents are not only indicators of their character, but they can shape our values about sex and relationships as a nation.
Shortly after Sarah Palin, Republican Vice-Presidential candidate, became governor of Alaska in 2006, her husband, Todd, became known not as First Gentleman, but as "First Dude." It's a term they both embrace. Alaska, and the Palin household, it seems, is a place for dudes rather than gentlemen. This salt-of-the-earth duo, who eloped to an Alaska courthouse in 1988, can be counted on to get things done, be that shooting tonight's dinner, raising five children or running a state government.