In my heartbroken state I yearned to do all the "wrong" things: exact brutal revenge, wallow in cynicism, and seek out meaningless shags. My concerned posse, on the other hand, suggested yoga, smiling from the inside, recording my feelings in a journal and going on platonic dates with young architects in Agnes B suits. Ignoring their advice, I chose the alternate route. Take this advice with a grain of salt (or a shot of tequila), and make sure this alternative treatment doesn't get out of control. You will know that it has gone too far if you find yourself walking naked and smoking a crack pipe on the street at five o'clock in the morning. But in all seriousness, a bit of bad behavior can help you to purge your anger and become independent, which is the only real way to deal.
Breakups are never easy, but there's nothing worse than being dumped when you didn't see it coming. If you want to give your relationship another chance, follow the shocking advice of Terri Trespicio's getting back together success story.
What happens when your boyfriend is cheating on you with a guy? One woman reveals how the man she thought was her soul mate was really gay and using her as a cover:
How your ex behaves after divorce when finding new love may infuriate you. But the harsh truth is that your opinion doesn't matter. Here's how to move on so you can cooperate your co-parenting together.
For all the advice we hear about breakups of the romantic variety, friendship usually gets the shaft. Rather than inspiring stories, words of wisdom, or stories of the nuanced phenomenon of breaking it off with a friend, we get all-out spectacle. Should women be exploited as drama queens and catfight instigators just because our friendships are a bit more dynamic? I decided to reach out to other women and ask if they'd ever had a friend breakup and what it really felt like.
"Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim." This quote by Nora Ephron would forever change the way I viewed—and lived—my life post-divorce.
Yesterday, a dear friend shared a story with YourTango of her discovery (through a twist of Facebook fate) that her boyfriend of nine months had been having an affair with his most recent ex the whole damn time. Post-confrontation, our friend composed an opus of a text so burningly poetic, we simply had to publish it. Behold the most epic f*ck-you breakup letter ever. (And, yes she sent it.)
When I was in high school, one of my favorite teachers told me that nothing worthwhile is easily attained. And I believed it — except when it came to men. Eventually I realized that some guys are special, and I shouldn't be changing them as often as I change my underwear. I would find a nice guy to commit to… but so many guys were nice. I decided I'd find a nice one until I found a nicer one. I'd become a serial monogamist.
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It all began when I was in New York City killing time before a business meeting. Having always loved dining out, I was happy to stumble upon an enticing-looking restaurant called the Banc Café. I walked in and requested a table for one — I was freshly out of a relationship, so this seemed like a bold move at the time.
A survey of counseling professionals from YourTango.com—the digital leader in love and relationships—offers compelling insights into why marriages fail.
When my first I'm-not-sure-I-want-to-do-this pangs began, my initial thought was not, tellingly, how I would express such hurtful feelings to my fiancé, nor was it even how we might break the news to friends and family. It was: I don't think the caterers would take this well. Maybe I'll just stick things out.
About four years ago, psychotherapist Rachel Sussman started witnessing love-life chaos from every direction. Her sister's five-year relationship hit the rocks. Some of her closest friends' marriages ended in divorces. She had an influx of clients in her practice dealing with devastating breakups. And Sussman got a front-row glimpse into how women handle that horrible road through Splitsville—a topic she felt she had to tackle. She felt instantly compelled to write about it.
It's been days or weeks or even months since you and your ex called it quits. And you're fine. You're convinced everything happens for a reason, and you’'l be better off with someone else someday. You rarely even think of him. Until you do.
Eighty-five percent of readers in a recent YourTango survey said they struggle with breakups and could use a "breakover"—aka an internal and external makeover aimed at helping them move on. One of the best methods to a successful "breakover" is through exercise—in fact, survey respondents listed exercise as one of the top three methods for getting over a breakup.