Without referring you to the many, many, medical sites, books and journals I immediately consulted on the subject, there is some belief that a certain vein that traverses one or both testicles can, in one way or another, affect the quality of sperm production. Operating on it may, or may not, improve sperm quality. In my case, a double varocelectomy was recommended.
I suppose everyone remembers their first time. I certainly do. I put on some mood music, dimmed the lights and proceeded to romance myself. Eager to please the laboratory (and myself), I marshaled my forces to climax, and then promptly fumbled the collection. Most of my contribution missed the container.
As a kid, my ballet teacher nicknamed me Olive Oil because I was tall and skinny with long dark hair like the cartoon. By 14, puberty had left me squeezing into 32DD bras. My instant curves disgusted me. "You are not fat; you’re Zaftik," my mother would say in Yiddish, as she inspected my 5'7" and 120-lb. frame. She meant I carried my weight well. Large busts were so common among Jewish women they'd created a word in the Old Country for exactly what I'd inherited.
Men have long rejected women because of what they perceive as excess weight. We've all heard of men who pressure their wives, partners or girlfriends to lose weight, and often female fears of losing a man will prompt a major overhaul. On the flip side, experts say women often withhold sex as a weapon of last resort when their partners refuse to or don't lose weight.
Would Andy think Jake was as perfect as I did? Perfect manners. Perfect behavior. Perfect attitude. Jake had just turned three. He was a sweet kid, affectionate and kind—but perfect manners? Who was I kidding? It wasn't as if "thank you" was exactly a recognized word in his vocabulary.
Should our sexual fantasies be morally and politically correct? Excerpted from Best Sex Writing 2009, erotica writer Kristina Lloyd explores her taste for pleasure with a side of discomfort and the judgment that writing graphic sex scenes draws. An intriguing reflection on fantasies and how they define us.
Female sexuality isn't well understood, even by scientists: examining the biology of arousal. Meredith Chivers uses evolutionary biology to explain why women's bodies and minds are turned on by different things. Lisa Diamond believes that women's sexuality is much more flexible than is generally understood, and that women are more turned on by emotional intimacy. Marta Meana works on the theory that female lust hinges on narcissism—that is, being desired. Are any of them right? No one knows.
In our steamiest revelations, most fearless sexual reporting and best sexpert advice of 2008 we investigate the female happy ending massage, the myth of the male orgasm, sex parties, public sex, masturbation and more.
2006 was a year of unprotected sex for me. No, not every time, but I started off the year with a fling with a slightly older man I was besotted with, who didn’t speak a word about condoms, and, in response, I didn’t either. I wanted to trust that he had some magical knowledge that somehow I was missing, that maybe the world had overturned itself and they were no longer necessary. I was wrong, and after a pregnancy panic as I searched for Plan B—this was right before it was so readily available—I escaped unscathed. Then later that year I met a guy I fell absolutely head over heels with, sure that we were destined to be together.
"I see an exciting adventure in your future, a new sexual experience that forever changes you," she said, tracing the sole of my foot with one soft fingertip. Her husband grinned at me from the bed. I sat half-naked in the overstuffed armchair and trembled with nerves. This is not how I'd imagined my first — or any — threesome. I'm not bisexual, and I can count the number of times I've been physically attracted to a woman on one hand, with two fingers left over. Yet here I was in a cute little southern California inn with a couple who have been married for 25 years, playing an adults-only computer game that would have us girls riding double before dinnertime.
Maybe you're loud and proud about the virtues of self-love. Maybe you haven't given masturbation a try. But masturbating is transforming in the public conscious; what used to be a vice now has many virtues and expert Jayme Waxman spells them out—from better sleep to stronger partner-orgasms—and gives you tips and techniques to make sex with your favorite person even better. And masturbation isn't just for singles; knowing how to get yourself off makes it easier to tell your partner what you like (and mutual masturbation may be another item to add to your relationship repertoire).
Anal sex sounds dirty, impersonal, and painful, so why do we do it? Because it's perfectly clean, remarkably intimate, and can feel unlike anything else.
An ABC News poll reports that 80% of both men and women say they have "the right amount" of foreplay in their sex lives. But if that's true, why does Cosmo field questions about how to get a man to slow down on the race to intercourse, while Men's Health readers are asking 'How can I make my wife more interested in quickies?' But whether the quantity—and quality—of foreplay in your relationship is too high, too low or just right, we've got a few foreplay tips to help you get all the not-quite-sex you've been hoping for.
Lots of attention is paid to male sexual function, and lots of money is paid to pharmaceutical companies to fix it: a multi-billion dollar industry was created to make sure men of any age can get it up and get it on. Without a visible dysfunction, many women suffer through low libido problems and uncomfortable sex assuming nothing can be done. But there's no need to suffer. A number of things—from your diet to your birth control pills—could be dampening your sex drive, and the good news is, it may be easily fixed.
Multiple orgasms have become the holy grail of female sexuality. Women want them, men want to give them, and we're all looking for the secrets that makes them possible. But just like playing the piano, some people may be born with natural ability, but it's a skill anyone can learn.