An ABC News poll reports that 80% of both men and women say they have "the right amount" of foreplay in their sex lives. But if that's true, why does Cosmo field questions about how to get a man to slow down on the race to intercourse, while Men's Health readers are asking 'How can I make my wife more interested in quickies?' But whether the quantity—and quality—of foreplay in your relationship is too high, too low or just right, we've got a few foreplay tips to help you get all the not-quite-sex you've been hoping for.
Lots of attention is paid to male sexual function, and lots of money is paid to pharmaceutical companies to fix it: a multi-billion dollar industry was created to make sure men of any age can get it up and get it on. Without a visible dysfunction, many women suffer through low libido problems and uncomfortable sex assuming nothing can be done. But there's no need to suffer. A number of things—from your diet to your birth control pills—could be dampening your sex drive, and the good news is, it may be easily fixed.
Multiple orgasms have become the holy grail of female sexuality. Women want them, men want to give them, and we're all looking for the secrets that makes them possible. But just like playing the piano, some people may be born with natural ability, but it's a skill anyone can learn.
You're drunk. Or lonely. Or just plain bored. And you've already got this guy programmed into your phone. So should you try to turn your best buddy into your bed buddy? We asked guys: "What do you think of friends with benefits?"
Vibrators: They hold a special place in our hearts and in our night stands. But is your man intimidated by your battery-powered best friend or eager to bring it in for a threesome? We asked men: “What do you think about vibrators?”
Miss Manners didn't write a manual for one night stands, but that doesn't mean there are no rules. Though thousands of pages have been written what to do at dances and dinner parties, on how to treat your date and your mate, precious little has been written about what to do with that guy you hooked up with after your cousin's wedding... the one you don't really want to see again. But manners haven't changed much from kindergarten days (except maybe for the one about biting), and you can navigate this situation—like many—by employing the basics: Don't leave your things lying around. Be honest. And say 'Thank you.'
She thought everything was on solid ground. But a few days after her boyfriend came back from a visit she was in terrible pain. Her worst fears were confirmed when her doctor told her that she had herpes. At first she denied that he could have done this to her but then the truth dawned on her, he had given her an incurable disease.
Women bleed for a week each month and yet somehow, we've been branded the more squeamish sex. Go figure. But while we've been on intimate terms with menstruation since we were 12, men aren't always used to getting so up close and personal. So when we have our “monthly visitor,” can we count on our guys to help us entertain? We asked men: "What do you think about having sex during a woman's period?"
The doctors Bodansky have written that if the orgasm that most people know now is like the Wright brothers' plane, then the extended massive orgasm, or EMO, is like the space shuttle. Their book, "The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm," offers detailed instructions on how to give an EMO, but it's just as important to learn the steps required to receive one: knowing what pleases all of your senses, learning to relax and receive, and getting into agreement with your body and your life. “Choices present themselves at every moment of our lives,” they write in the first chapter, “and when you choose correctly, you can guide yourself toward a better, more pleasurable existence. But uncovering—the better word is recognizing—these choices often requires an attitude adjustment. That adjustment consists of getting into agreement with what is occurring in your life, for only then can you hope to move on to a higher level.”
Whether you're looking for a guy who will stick around till last call or last till Medicare kicks in, attracting a man depends largely on the kind of specimen you're dealing with. Dating advice abounds, but the truth is, seduction is simple, once you know your audience. Smart guys, sporty guys, manly men and players tell you how to hook them (and why you might not want to).
People often confuse sex and sexuality with love. Using Tantric practice it's possible to enjoy more oneness during sex. It's more than just about the act, it encompasses all of the senses and should be an 'in the moment' event.
The reality of living with an STD is a painful one, and one that people deal with everyday. The Center for Disease Control that 80 percent of the population has a sexually transmitted disease, so how do couples make it work when their love can literally be painful? After contracting herpes from having oral sex with her then boyfriend, one writer describes her journey trying to understand her STD and find love. She meets Mike (he has HPV and she has herpes) and together they try to make it work through honesty and protection.
As the internet grows so does the porn industry which rakes in over $15 billion each year in the US. And all this money is coming out of the pockets of men. 72% of visitors to pornography sites are men. According to an article by SavvyMiss.com, men say that watching porn is so normal for guys that they will even share their favorite DVDs and videos with their buddies. It’s as natural as letting someone borrow a power tool or lawn mower." But the article warns watch out for the guy who has replaced his lady with porn. There is a fine line between use and abuse.
Spanking Advice: how to ask your boyfriend or husband for a spank (spank me, please!) overcome your inhibitions about the bottom (it's sexy!) enjoy being spanked (spank you, Mr. Spank!). Lots of people are into love taps –over-the-knee or tangled up in intercourse, one item on the foreplay buffet or the main event. "For some people, a good hard smack is going to bring nerve endings to life," says Dr. Yvonne Fulbright, sexologist and author of Touch Me There: A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots. It's tricky to find out how many people are doing it, but you don't have to look further than pop culture to see we've got spanks on the brain: paddlings make appearances everywhere from old episodes of I Love Lucy to the 2004 flick Along Came Polly to Broadway's hit show Spring Awakening. Back in 1996, essayist Daphne Merkin shocked New Yorker readers with a frank article about her desire to be spanked by a man; even Justin Timberlake promised in his 2006 single SexyBack, "I'll let you whip me if I misbehave." (Were you talking to Britney, Cameron, or Jessica when you said that, Justin?)
Since obtaining FDA approval in 1960, the Pill's been blamed for various maladies, such as divorce, cancer, and behavior changes, yet it remains the leading contraceptive for women in the US. According to the Guttmacher Institute, an independent sexual health and reproduction policy group, 31 percent of women of child-bearing age who use contraception are on the birth control pill, under the watchful eye of doctors, pharmacists, partners, spiritual leaders and the media. Recently, the Pill's been receiving an extra bad name, and as other methods of birth control gain popularity, we decided to set the record straight.