"I see an exciting adventure in your future, a new sexual experience that forever changes you," she said, tracing the sole of my foot with one soft fingertip. Her husband grinned at me from the bed. I sat half-naked in the overstuffed armchair and trembled with nerves. This is not how I'd imagined my first — or any — threesome. I'm not bisexual, and I can count the number of times I've been physically attracted to a woman on one hand, with two fingers left over. Yet here I was in a cute little southern California inn with a couple who have been married for 25 years, playing an adults-only computer game that would have us girls riding double before dinnertime.
Maybe you're loud and proud about the virtues of self-love. Maybe you haven't given masturbation a try. But masturbating is transforming in the public conscious; what used to be a vice now has many virtues and expert Jayme Waxman spells them out—from better sleep to stronger partner-orgasms—and gives you tips and techniques to make sex with your favorite person even better. And masturbation isn't just for singles; knowing how to get yourself off makes it easier to tell your partner what you like (and mutual masturbation may be another item to add to your relationship repertoire).
Anal sex sounds dirty, impersonal, and painful, so why do we do it? Because it's perfectly clean, remarkably intimate, and can feel unlike anything else. Experts estimate that one out of every four straight couples has tried anal sex at least once. Ky Henderson shares some thoughts, advice and perspectives.
Seventy percent of both women and men fantasize about it. Some are turned on by the risk of getting caught; others simply want the novelty of taking the bedroom show on the road. You may want a springtime romp in a field of flowers or a quickie in a bar bathroom, but in the end, sex in public—like real estate—is all about one thing: location location location.
An ABC News poll reports that 80% of both men and women say they have "the right amount" of foreplay in their sex lives. But if that's true, why does Cosmo field questions about how to get a man to slow down on the race to intercourse, while Men's Health readers are asking 'How can I make my wife more interested in quickies?' But whether the quantity—and quality—of foreplay in your relationship is too high, too low or just right, we've got a few foreplay tips to help you get all the not-quite-sex you've been hoping for.
Lots of attention is paid to male sexual function, and lots of money is paid to pharmaceutical companies to fix it: a multi-billion dollar industry was created to make sure men of any age can get it up and get it on. Without a visible dysfunction, many women suffer through low libido problems and uncomfortable sex assuming nothing can be done. But there's no need to suffer. A number of things—from your diet to your birth control pills—could be dampening your sex drive, and the good news is, it may be easily fixed.
Multiple orgasms have become the holy grail of female sexuality. Women want them, men want to give them, and we're all looking for the secrets that makes them possible. But just like playing the piano, some people may be born with natural ability, but it's a skill anyone can learn.
You're drunk. Or lonely. Or just plain bored. And you've already got this guy programmed into your phone. So should you try to turn your best buddy into your bed buddy? We asked guys: "What do you think of friends with benefits?"
Vibrators: They hold a special place in our hearts and in our night stands. But is your man intimidated by your battery-powered best friend or eager to bring it in for a threesome? We asked men: “What do you think about vibrators?”
Miss Manners didn't write a manual for one night stands, but that doesn't mean there are no rules. Though thousands of pages have been written what to do at dances and dinner parties, on how to treat your date and your mate, precious little has been written about what to do with that guy you hooked up with after your cousin's wedding... the one you don't really want to see again. But manners haven't changed much from kindergarten days (except maybe for the one about biting), and you can navigate this situation—like many—by employing the basics: Don't leave your things lying around. Be honest. And say 'Thank you.'
She thought everything was on solid ground. But a few days after her boyfriend came back from a visit she was in terrible pain. Her worst fears were confirmed when her doctor told her that she had herpes. At first she denied that he could have done this to her but then the truth dawned on her, he had given her an incurable disease.
Women bleed for a week each month and yet somehow, we've been branded the more squeamish sex. Go figure. But while we've been on intimate terms with menstruation since we were 12, men aren't always used to getting so up close and personal. So when we have our “monthly visitor,” can we count on our guys to help us entertain? We asked men: "What do you think about having sex during a woman's period?"
The doctors Bodansky have written that if the orgasm that most people know now is like the Wright brothers' plane, then the extended massive orgasm, or EMO, is like the space shuttle. Their book, "The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm," offers detailed instructions on how to give an EMO, but it's just as important to learn the steps required to receive one: knowing what pleases all of your senses, learning to relax and receive, and getting into agreement with your body and your life. “Choices present themselves at every moment of our lives,” they write in the first chapter, “and when you choose correctly, you can guide yourself toward a better, more pleasurable existence. But uncovering—the better word is recognizing—these choices often requires an attitude adjustment. That adjustment consists of getting into agreement with what is occurring in your life, for only then can you hope to move on to a higher level.”
Whether you're looking for a guy who will stick around till last call or last till Medicare kicks in, attracting a man depends largely on the kind of specimen you're dealing with. Dating advice abounds, but the truth is, seduction is simple, once you know your audience. Smart guys, sporty guys, manly men and players tell you how to hook them (and why you might not want to).
People often confuse sex and sexuality with love. Using Tantric practice it's possible to enjoy more oneness during sex. It's more than just about the act, it encompasses all of the senses and should be an 'in the moment' event.