While there are those of us who relish alone time with a good smoothie vibrator and the most-recently-published collection of exhibitionist-themed erotica (me), the truth is that sex toys can be used for so much more than just self-love.
Picture this: You're in the middle of a fierce makeout session and reach down to grab what you expect will be a hard, throbbing erection. Instead, your hand is met with a disappointingly soft penis. Or maybe he's got an erection now, but loses it before you can actually get busy. Sure, what goes up must—eventually—come down, but so soon? Your first thought is probably, "Why can't he get it up? Isn't he attracted to me?"
In a culture where polyamory is part of the national vocabulary, sex parties are no longer shocking, and Rihanna is singing about S&M on the radio airwaves, it would seem that kink has finally gone mainstream. Still, there are some things that are still taboo… at least until you peek into women's panties.
["How To Turn Date Night Into Incredibly Hot Sex" is sponsored by Zestra.] According to the results of YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, 80% of you believe that "date night" is the magic spark that will bring the fire back to your relationship — Hey, it's how you first seduced him! But while a date usually guarantees you'll get a delicious dinner, things can get a whole lot spicier when you become the main dish. After all, you're the one who can serve up hot sex! Transition date night into unforgettable passion with these sexy tips, guaranteed to turn any old dinner-and-a-movie into lip-biting, sheet-grabbing, toe-curling, mind-blowing sex!
So you have an STD... now what? For many women still in the prime of their dating lives, an STD can feel like a huge, blinking road block standing between them and Mr. Right. But it doesn't have to be. Yes, you'll have to tell them about your situation, but it doesn't have to scare them away. Here's how to do it.
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Traditional advice suggests "spicing things up" with toys or bedroom games, but it's hard to imagine finding the enthusiasm to browse at a sex store when simply thinking about doing the deed exhausts you. Sexuality coach Pamela Madsen suggests an unusual approach: reading.
Are women having orgasms in bed? Men seem to think so. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, 85 percent of men believe their partner climaxed during their most recent love-making session. If that's the case, women everywhere deserve a shot at an Oscars for their in-bed acting abilities. Because, according to the very same NSSHB study cited above, only 64 percent of women reported reaching orgasm during their most recent sexual event—which means that the other 21 percent are most likely faking it. What's more, an online survey over at SkinnyScoop.com reveals that a whopping 80 percent of women would prefer a massage to sex with their partner. This doesn't seem all that shocking to me. On most days, I'd prefer a box of Cheez-its to another round of unsatisfying sex.
There was a point at which porn hadn't simply gone mainstream, hadn't just jumped the shark, but had somehow lost its taboo altogether, and that was November 17, 2009, the day Jenna Jameson appeared on "The Oprah Winfrey Show." I remember watching it with a mix of bemusement and sadness. I first met Jameson in the summer of 1997, when she was dancing at a strip club in San Francisco...
YourTango and Zestra want to help separate myth from fact, so we've put together a survey to find out how much people know about female sexual pleasure. Help us out by taking the survey—it'll take about five minutes. Then check YourTango later this month to see the results.
You can't tell me there is a female on this planet who hasn't tried to diet, or suck in, or shimmy into a pair of Spanx, all in the hopes of looking svelter—I for one have tried all three in spades. But I was still surprised when I read that according to a survey in by Fitness magazine, 51% of women would give up sex for a whole entire year if it meant they could be skinny. Say what?! Well gals, I'm the fat ambassador who has come to you to tell you that lean ladies have not cornered the market on earth-shaking, mind-blowing, down and dirty, can't walk straight the next day kind of sex. No matter what size you are, you can orgasm—and how!
I’m not one of those girls who hates other girls. Most of my close friends are women, and although I have guy friends I’m far from “one of the guys.” I don’t like sports, I don’t eat pizza or drink beer, and I’m very particular about keeping things neat and tidy. However, my best friend from college happens to be a guy. I first met Josh a few weeks into my freshman year. We went on one date, kissed for three seconds, and quickly decided we were better off as friends. Twelve years later, and still very close, Josh called to tell me I was officially invited to his bachelor party. It was going to be me and 27 dudes in Atlantic City for the weekend. I was honored to be deemed awesome enough to be the one chick at a bachelor party, excited to see behind the testosterone curtain, curious to learn what really goes on at these things and determined to live up to Josh’s expectations of me seamlessly fitting in, even though I lacked an Adam’s apple, stubble, and a penis.
Does living with your husband seem more and more like crashing with a roommate than with a spouse? Does it feel like years since you've had some soul-inspiring, body-exploding sexual intimacy in your marriage? When you've been together for a while, it's easy to lose the spark—especially for women. Increasing female libido in marriage can seem like a daunting task. But never fear—sexual arousal is right around the corner. These five tips will help you locate and increase that elusive female libido, so you and your man can succeed in bringing the sexy back into your marriage.
When I was a teenager, I believed all I had to do was find the perfect kisser, and he would be the man of my dreams. I learned this was a fallacy when the best lover I ever had turned out to be a lousy kisser. It's enormously disconcerting to find out you can make great love together and, yet, feel very awkward when you kiss. I would like to have permission to train my lover to kiss me just right. Then, he could train me to kiss him just right, and we could take turns pleasing each other. But how do you tell a guy his kisses need improvement? Even worse, how do you hear from him that your kisses leave something to be desired?
Given that springtime is notoriously mating season for us mammals, we've teamed up with our friends at Glo and Chemisty.com, as well as biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., to launch a survey to help us find out what really attracts people to a potential mate, and, perhaps more importantly, what keeps those fires burning year after year. Help us by clicking the link below and filling out the questions that follow. We'll be posting the results soon.