Most people hate being photographed, even fully clothed. So why film yourself in the sack? Filming yourselves having sex can be arousing and liberating—as long as you’re prepared to laugh at the results. Also, be ready to keep the tape in a VERY safe place.
or the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: who pays for birth control?My boyfriend and I have been living together for a while now. We’re committed, but since we're not ready to say "I do" or start a family, birth control (me taking the pill) is essential. I want him to share the not-insignificant cost of my prescription. He says none of the guys he knows split the contraception tab with their girlfriends, so why should he? —B.K., New York, N.Y.
Some couples play dress-up even when it’s not Halloween; imagining different people and scenarios while making love can invigorate your sex life—or it can make you feel a little creepy. How do you get the best from your fantasies? Here’s a guide to navigating your sexual imaginations. "From picturing the hottie in Accounts Payable naked, to role-playing, to thinking about other people or circumstances while masturbating or having sex, people often use fantasies to augment their lovemaking. In fact, there are women who can achieve orgasm merely by conjuring that philanthropist/mailman/pool boy/plumber in their heads. (Seriously. And they're being studied.) Even if you're not blessed with that ability, research has shown that women's orgasms are in some ways more tied to mental gymnastics than to anything that's happening in the physical world. 'In women, the vast majority of sex is going on in their minds,' explains Dr. Anita H. Clayton, a professor in the Department of Psychiatric Medicine at the University of Virginia and author of an upcoming book about the relationship between sex and the psyche. 'So we can be easily distracted or shift into another set of feelings very quickly.'"
Ever wish you could ditch your monthly cycle? Experts say that taking two packs of the pill back to back—which will result in a skipped period—is quite safe. Expert Dr. Leslie Miller talks about menstrual suppression with birth control pills such as Seasonale, Alesse and it's generic counterpart, Aviane. It might take you several tries to find the right pill to stop your bleeding, but here's a good place to start. According to Dr. Miller, "A woman should be able to ask, 'How much progestin and estrogen do I need to turn off ovulation until I want to have a baby?' or say: 'I want to have a period every three months, or maybe I don't want any at all.' That's my vision. We need to learn how to dose the pill to get that effect."
Fast doesn't always mean bad; counsels expert Dr. Pepper Schwartz. While wonderful; sometimes tender lovemaking can be touched with a little ennui. Quickies can be the perfect(ly intimate) solution to showing just how desirable your partner is to you.
From the psychology of snap judgments to the hormones behind trust; this year‚Äôs discoveries took researchers deeper and deeper into the facts behind our feelings. Tango presents a roundup of the choicest nuggets uncovered this year‚Äîand a peek at the territory ahead.