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Diary Of A Former Fat Girl: Sex And The Scale

A formerly overweight newlywed discovers that feeling sexy on her honeymoon is not about being thin. "I was running four miles a day, panting through countless crunches, and bleeding sweat on the Stairmaster at the gym, and for what? Well, like every other woman in America, I wanted to feel sexy. But more than that, I wanted to look sexy for my soon-to-be husband. I was two months from getting married. My hunt for sultry lingerie and swimsuits for our Cancun honeymoon had sent me into hysterics."

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8 Tips For Telling Your Partner A Health Secret

Dating someone new means learning about each other's quirky behaviors, emotional baggage, and the past experiences that have shaped both of your lives. But what if this involves a health or medical secret you're hesitant to talk about?

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How To Date A (Real-Life) Vampire

These days, it seems, everyone wants to bed a vampire. Their combination of unearthly beauty, perfect chivalry and dangerous nature make them irresistible to women. True Blood's Bill Compton and Twilight's Edward Cullen are the stuff of fiction, however there is, in fact, a community of people who identify as vampires. So what's it like to date a real-life vampire? YourTango investigates.

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101 Ways To Improve Your Relationship Right Now

All relationships need a little pick-me-up sometimes—even the best ones. To that end, YourTango has compiled a list of 101 ways to reconnect with your significant other, right now. Whether you'd like to increase intimacy, find a thoughtful way to say "I love you," or just show your honey some gratitude, we're sure you'll find something useful in the list below.


My One Great Love...Wasn't

Our story had all of the makings of a great love story. Once upon a time we met one evening in a dark, crowded party. He told me I was beautiful. I was young enough for him to appear larger than life. We kissed on the sidewalk in the rain. I fell hard for him—hard like scrape-me-off-the-floor-with-a-spatula hard. But we were wrong for each other in every way. We were young, immature, and troubled. It ended tragically—Sebastian stood me up on a cold, snowy New Year's Eve and the two of us never spoke again. I went on with my life.

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When Sex Is A Weapon: Surviving Date Rape

A woman confronts memories of being raped as a teen. "I just found out that my rapist is dead. Not only is he dead, but he ended up killing a lot of women. I always wondered if he would rape again, but I never thought he would graduate to murder."

Life After Infidelity And Widowhood

Life After Infidelity And Widowhood

In 2003, after nearly 14 years of marriage, Julie Metz learned that her husband Henry had been cheating on her with multiple women. Shattering to any wife, news of his infidelity hit Metz particularly hard—Henry had passed away six months prior. The revelation of his rampant adultery—including a three-year affair with a close family friend—dealt Metz a second, equally wounding blow. In her memoir, "Perfection: A Memoir of Betrayal and Renewal," Metz recounts the aftermath of this revelation and chronicles her path to self-renewal and rediscovery of both love and trust.

Is Facebook Causing Us To Cheat?

Is Facebook Causing Us To Cheat?

Back in the '90s, people generally discovered their partner's infidelity when they opened a bill for their cell phone, it was all there is black and white. Today, with social media like Facebook and Twitter the line of infidelity is a little more gray, and a little harder to spot. Licensed psychotherapist Elisabeth Joy LaMotte teaches us how to bring a lover back from the brink, turn off the laptops and turn up our love lives.

Oui, Y’all: Why Accents Are So Attractive

Oui, Y’all: Why Accents Are So Attractive

Why is it that some accents attract us, while others grate like nails on a chalkboard? Our inclinations toward certain accents are psychological and cultural, rather than physiological, says Susan Tamasi, a sociolinguist at Emory University. A romp with someone with an accent feels like taking a walk on the wild side—a mini-vacation without having to leave our bedroom. It's not the boy next door—his accent tells you that much.

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For A Month, I Did Everything My Wife Said

As part of his book, The Guinea Pig Diaries, author A.J. Jacobs did everything his wife told him to. "She will be boss. I will be her devoted servant. It will be a month of foot massages and talking about feelings and scrubbing dishes and watching Kate Hudson movies (well, if Julie actually liked Kate Hudson movies). It could be revelatory. It'll let me explore the tricky power dynamics of the modern American marriage. It'll allow me to study the Mars/Venus, Everybody Loves Raymond clichés about gender battles and figure out which are true and which are hogwash."

How To Spot A Liar

Is It Possible To Spot A Liar?

Most of us think we know the telltale signs of a liar—shifty eyes, sweating, a long, winding story that seems highly improbable. In reality, however, there is not one behavior all liars exhibit and some behaviors we associate with lying could mean something else entirely. Because of this, few people are very good at spotting liars. But deciphering a liar from a truth-teller is not completely hopeless; it just isn't as easy as is seems.

Is Cheating An Addiction?

Is Cheating An Addiction?

After Governor Mark Sanford abandoned his state and his family to be with his mistress in Argentina, people applauded his long-suffering wife Jenny for kicking his lying butt to the curb. Yet even as she denounced his affair, she gave him a big gift … she called his cheating "an addiction." These days, people love characterizing everything as an addiction, from the frivolous to the frightening. In pop culture parlance, you can be a rage-aholic, a shop-aholic, and a choc-aholic. Addictions are serious things, but is cheating seriously an addiction?

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The Dos And Don'ts Of Traveling As A Couple

After two and half years together and a few short domestic trips, my now-husband and I put our relationship to the test with a two-week jaunt through China. Sure, hiking the Great Wall, braving squatter toilets, and eating breakfast with chopsticks were all an adventure, but the real challenge of vacationing together was spending every minute together for 15 days straight. If you think your relationship is up to the test, do yourself (and him) a favor by following my hard-learned tips…