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Top 10 Ways To Make His Family Love You

It's finally happened. You've met the One. And—wonder of wonders—he thinks you're the One as well! He finds you fascinating, beautiful and amazing—but he's not the only person you have to impress. While you shouldn't give up on love just because his mom gives you the stink-eye, chances are your guy would prefer it if you were all one big, happy family. Because, when it comes down to it, do you really want to make him choose sides? (Hint: No.) Thank god you have us. Here are the top 10 ways to win over his family.

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10 More Dating Deal Breakers To Ignore

Last week, we clued you in to 10 dating deal breakers that really aren't—and could be keeping you from the One. Some of you agreed. An awful lot of you thought we were raving lunatic nut jobs. But bear with us. We're only looking out for your best interests—which is why we wanted to bring you 10 more dating deal breakers that, under most circumstances, shouldn't really be considered deal breakers. Because beneath that nervous tic or that crustache or that really ugly shirt is the man of your dreams. You just have to look past superficial details and find out who he really is.

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Soul Mates: 10 Steps To A Spiritual Relationship

Love. Sex. Boys. Girls. The same problems and frustrations again and again. We've been there countless times, wondering when we'll find that ONE, that perfect person we want to stay with forever and ever. Even in a relationship, we reach a point where the person we're with doesn't feel as special as he or she used to. What if you could guarantee a spark that lasted—no matter who you were with—and a happier life to go along with it? The ancient teachings of Buddhism suggest that we can do just that if we transform our relationships into spiritual partnerships. If we use our relationships to make us wiser, kinder and more compassionate, we can actually change how they function. Whether you're in a relationship or seeking a new one, here are 10 methods for building a spiritual partnership.

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Together Forever But Not Married? Advice You Need

A 2006 Pew Research study found that about a quarter of unmarried Americans (23 million) say they are in unmarried committed romantic relationships. A slice of this population is what I dub "a little bit married": They live together, go on each other's family vacations and own pets together, but aren't yet engaged. In my new book, A Little Bit Married: How to Know When It's Time to Walk Down The Aisle or Out the Door, I conclude that "a little bit married" (ALBM) is a recent cultural phenomenon, taking place especially among college-educated, upwardly mobile, twenty- and thirty-somethings.

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Yes...I think.

Engaged & Confused: Overcoming My Fear Of Marriage

I love Dean, but in the bright light of wedding planning I found myself picking him apart. I watched eHarmony.com commercials and wondered how I could know that we were meant to be together if we were never paired by experts based on the nine dimensions of compatibility. I spun myself up more than a dozen times weighing all the pros and cons (in an Excel spreadsheet, no less) and fretting over the unknowns. Read about how I overcame my fears.

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How Meditation Led Me To True Love

The way Francesco broke up with me was as simple as it was shocking. It was a Saturday afternoon in July and we'd just seen a movie at The Museum of Modern Art in New York City. Riding the subway back downtown, we sat side by side, him in an inexplicable and smoldering silence. Then he got up and walked out of the train. I never saw him again.Francesco's behavior made no sense, and, a month later, I was still struggling to accept it. On a friend’s suggestion, I went to a yoga center to check out a Tantric meditation class. As I discovered, this yogic approach was different.

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Valentine's Day Weddings & Proposals (So Cute!)

Love or hate it, Valentine's Day puts the pressure on all of us to step up our game and romance the heck out of our loved ones. Some people go the chocolates and flowers route. Others plan elaborate and sensuous meals. Still others look to the big day as an excuse to escape on a romantic getaway. But try living up to these couples: Some of them got engaged on Valentine's Day, and still others had their actual weddings on February 14. So was it the lovey-dovey, fairytale event they'd always dreamed of? And how do they top such a thing years later? We asked couples who took VDay to the next level about their experiences.

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The Busy Person's Guide To Romance

Casanova himself couldn't keep up with the ideals of romance set forth by today's helpful movies, but hypothetical help is on its way! If you find yourself intimidated by keeping up with the Bridget Joneses, and settling for nothing instead, RoMints might be for you. RoMints are delicious, bite size nuggets of romance anyone can pull off for tiny scraps of cash and commitment.

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He Said, She Said: Is Your Man Romantic Enough?

I've said this a thousand times: Romance is actually the number one issue in relationships where women feel dissatisfied. Sure, that's a sweeping generalization, but I'm pretty sure if you give me fifteen minutes alone with any woman, I could get her all riled up about romance. "What? He never makes you breakfast in bed? What? It was a decade ago since you've gotten flowers? What? He can spend twenty minutes rubbing the dog's belly, but never yours?" As a woman, I want more romance. It happens in movies. Why can't it happen in real life?

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Why Romance Novels Are Smarter Than You Think

I'm here to tell you that romance is easily summed up in one word: Fabio. Oh, yes, the long, blond hair, the gleaming hunks of waxed man-cleavage shown off by a shirt that's undone but still tucked in: these are the hallmarks of romance. I'm kidding, of course. That may be the stereotypical image of romance, and most certainly of romance novels, but that's not romance itself—not by a long shot. Here's what is.

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Male Take: Why Romance Matters

If I had to define romance as anything, I'd call it extra—it's the impulse, spurred on by sentiment, to add a little something, to try a little harder, to do one more thing as a sign of the love you have for the other person. And romance is often about translation—about converting your feelings into signals that will be visible to the other person's eye, not merely to your own.