If you've been watching MTV's Jersey Shore, maybe you can understand how a reasonably intelligent Italian-American woman from New Jersey, who lives within miles of the shooting location, might want to pretend to be someone else for a while. The fear of being lumped with characters like Snooki, whose "ultimate goal is to move to Jersey and find a nice juiced, hot, tan guy," is a great motivator for change.
As we lucky ladies reach our middle years, it's as inevitable as death and taxes that we'll experience menopause. Taken from the Greek words "pausis" (cessation) and the "men" from mensis (month), menopause literally means reaching one's last menstrual period. Hooray! No more cramping and tampons! On the downside, your body experiences a depletion of estrogen that leads to hot flashes, mood and sleeping problems, not to mention a lack of moistness down below. Due to a toxic mix of bodily and hormonal changes, many women find their sexuality, physically and emotionally, dwindling. So is there a way to still feel sexy when you're body's grappling to adjust to menopause? Absolutely. Here are 7 pointers.
What's going on? Is lustful passion so objectifying that it negates tenderness? Is it so difficult for us to accept all that we are? Why can't we be mothers and fathers, needy children, able businesspeople, and also vixens and studs when the time is right?
The other woman in my life, Sophia, is my 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Sure, children can arrest marriages: maybe Mom has to put a career on hold, or Dad realizes he just isn't ready to be a dad, or mom and dad bicker constantly over the cumulative array of child-rearing decisions (diet, vaccines, public or private school?—the list is endless). But it shouldn't be this way. In fact, the more time I spend with my daughter, the more attuned I become to what I love about my wife.
It goes without saying that we no longer live in the time of the Huxtables (much less the Cleavers). But what makes families today different from how they used to be? We decided to investigate. Using facts from census data and recent studies on child-rearing, work, and marriage, we've narrowed down seven qualities that characterize the new American family.
Love doesn't have to interfere with work; it can actually support it. One man's take on having it all: career, love, family, and success.
What's an emotional affair and how do you know if you're having one? The line between harmless flirtation with a member of the opposite sex and actual infidelity is blurry, especially for women, who are typically more open with their emotions. The number one sign that a relationship is starting to cross the line? You're telling another person things you're not telling your partner. Have you been cheating?
Single ladies: don't be in such a rush to "put a ring on it." Enjoy this time while you have it. Don't spend so much time and energy looking for a mate because, once you have one, you're stuck with him for life. Take this time to learn to enjoy yourself, so that you're fully equipped to continue doing it when you're married.
Could Sandra Bullock have salvaged her marriage if she got a tattoo? A writer reminisces upon her own experience with tattoos and why women find them liberating, while men just can't stop staring.
When you're getting serious with someone, there are certain things you need to know about them—partially to assess compatibility, and partially because communication, openness and trust are foundations of a healthy relationship. Don't worry. The major differences you end up finding between the two of you need not be deal breakers. Plenty of couples make it work despite divergent views on politics, money and social issues. But talking about these issues can strengthen and deepen your relationship—or make you realize you don't want to commit to this person after all.
First thing first: Can you go the distance? If you have a deep bank account, lots of frequent flier miles, a flexible work schedule or a desire to get out of town, seeing a partner far away can be feasible and fun. But if you're already on a budget, hurting for vacation days or hate traveling, flying off to see a partner can become miserable—well before you reach elite traveler status.
Why do some women flirt with everyone—even men they don't like? Our writer explains: "It all started when I was an awkward, mercilessly ugly 12-year-old. And then I discovered what would drastically alter the direction of my life: a stack of Playboys in my step-grandfather's closet. I could master the art of the smoldering stare. I could pout my lips and trail my finger across my chest. I could do this! That day, a flirt was born."
As fierce, independent women, we like to think that we don't need men. And we don't. We can change our own tires... open our own jars... move our own furniture... Still, it sure is nice to have men around. Which is why YourTango put together this nifty little list of the 10 things we love about them. Guys: Consider this a love letter from us to you.
My romantic relationships have all followed this same pattern: I am "not enough" for the other person's love. Sometimes I blindly pursue men who blatantly tell me I am not enough. One boyfriend told me I would be really hot if I was five inches taller, ten pounds lighter, had broader shoulders (what?) and was Irish. Still, I stayed with him for 18 months. By unconsciously seeking out unattainable/emotionally unavailable/married or simply not interested men, I can obsessively reenact my father/daughter dynamic in the vain hope that if I can convince said man to love and notice me, then surely my father will notice and love me too.
The percentage of female rabbis and pastors is on the rise, and many women want to find Mr. Right. We talk to several women of the clergy who are looking for love but struggle on the dating scene.