What's going on? Is lustful passion so objectifying that it negates tenderness? Is it so difficult for us to accept all that we are? Why can't we be mothers and fathers, needy children, able businesspeople, and also vixens and studs when the time is right?
The other woman in my life, Sophia, is my 2-and-a-half-year-old daughter. Sure, children can arrest marriages: maybe Mom has to put a career on hold, or Dad realizes he just isn't ready to be a dad, or mom and dad bicker constantly over the cumulative array of child-rearing decisions (diet, vaccines, public or private school?—the list is endless). But it shouldn't be this way. In fact, the more time I spend with my daughter, the more attuned I become to what I love about my wife.
It goes without saying that we no longer live in the time of the Huxtables (much less the Cleavers). But what makes families today different from how they used to be? We decided to investigate. Using facts from census data and recent studies on child-rearing, work, and marriage, we've narrowed down seven qualities that characterize the new American family.
Love doesn't have to interfere with work; it can actually support it. One man's take on having it all: career, love, family, and success.
What's an emotional affair and how do you know if you're having one? The line between harmless flirtation with a member of the opposite sex and actual infidelity is blurry, especially for women, who are typically more open with their emotions. The number one sign that a relationship is starting to cross the line? You're telling another person things you're not telling your partner. Have you been cheating?
Single ladies: don't be in such a rush to "put a ring on it." Enjoy this time while you have it. Don't spend so much time and energy looking for a mate because, once you have one, you're stuck with him for life. Take this time to learn to enjoy yourself, so that you're fully equipped to continue doing it when you're married.
Could Sandra Bullock have salvaged her marriage if she got a tattoo? A writer reminisces upon her own experience with tattoos and why women find them liberating, while men just can't stop staring.
When you're getting serious with someone, there are certain things you need to know about them—partially to assess compatibility, and partially because communication, openness and trust are foundations of a healthy relationship. Don't worry. The major differences you end up finding between the two of you need not be deal breakers. Plenty of couples make it work despite divergent views on politics, money and social issues. But talking about these issues can strengthen and deepen your relationship—or make you realize you don't want to commit to this person after all.
First thing first: Can you go the distance? If you have a deep bank account, lots of frequent flier miles, a flexible work schedule or a desire to get out of town, seeing a partner far away can be feasible and fun. But if you're already on a budget, hurting for vacation days or hate traveling, flying off to see a partner can become miserable—well before you reach elite traveler status.
Why do some women flirt with everyone—even men they don't like? Our writer explains: "It all started when I was an awkward, mercilessly ugly 12-year-old. And then I discovered what would drastically alter the direction of my life: a stack of Playboys in my step-grandfather's closet. I could master the art of the smoldering stare. I could pout my lips and trail my finger across my chest. I could do this! That day, a flirt was born."
As fierce, independent women, we like to think that we don't need men. And we don't. We can change our own tires... open our own jars... move our own furniture... Still, it sure is nice to have men around. Which is why YourTango put together this nifty little list of the 10 things we love about them. Guys: Consider this a love letter from us to you.
My romantic relationships have all followed this same pattern: I am "not enough" for the other person's love. Sometimes I blindly pursue men who blatantly tell me I am not enough. One boyfriend told me I would be really hot if I was five inches taller, ten pounds lighter, had broader shoulders (what?) and was Irish. Still, I stayed with him for 18 months. By unconsciously seeking out unattainable/emotionally unavailable/married or simply not interested men, I can obsessively reenact my father/daughter dynamic in the vain hope that if I can convince said man to love and notice me, then surely my father will notice and love me too.
The percentage of female rabbis and pastors is on the rise, and many women want to find Mr. Right. We talk to several women of the clergy who are looking for love but struggle on the dating scene.
When a man can't get it up, the experience for him and his partner falls somewhere between awkward and utterly mortifying—I've even heard of men not calling women back because they were so ashamed of their inability to keep it up. So what can a woman say or do when her man can't get an erection? Here are five things you can say to help make the best of the situation. Because men are so sensitive about it, and because it's about as embarrassing a moment as he can experience, it puts the woman in a really tough spot. Of course you just want to say, "Honey, is there something I can do to help?" But in some cases, that's exactly what he doesn't want to hear. He's thinking, "No, I'm just dying from the pressure here, and the last thing I want you to do is even notice, much less try to help!" Even worse is if you say, "Is there something wrong?" or "Are you okay?"—because, yes, there obviously is something wrong (you don't have to remind me!) and, no, I'm clearly not OK, I'm flaccid! So what can a woman say or do when her man can't rev up the engines? Here are a few possibilities, but know that any one of these can backfire too, depending on the circumstances. But, in order of most likely to go over well, here are five ways you can say to help make the best of the situation.
It's finally happened. You've met the One. And—wonder of wonders—he thinks you're the One as well! He finds you fascinating, beautiful and amazing—but he's not the only person you have to impress. While you shouldn't give up on love just because his mom gives you the stink-eye, chances are your guy would prefer it if you were all one big, happy family. Because, when it comes down to it, do you really want to make him choose sides? (Hint: No.) Thank god you have us. Here are the top 10 ways to win over his family.