According to the 22,000 people who took the Power of Attraction survey, men and women have pretty similar view on how to reignite attraction in a relationship. Both genders say talking about the relationship and going on a date are the top methods or rekindling the spark. But as we continued to analyze the results, we found that there were some significant differences in what guys and gals thought would turn up the heat. “I can’t imagine ever being like that with you,” John said. He meant it... for the first few months. The new couple went to concerts, museums and took long walks around the city. But less than a year into the relationship, a familiar pattern emerged. “Our relationship had become the dreaded ‘dinner and sex,’” says Amy. “Well, no. Dinner and watching a mind-numbing amount of TV and sex.” And fighting about how they “never did anything anymore.” So what happened? Was John growing boring, because he was already bored?
When my husband requested a trial separation, his reasoning was that we weren't a good match anymore. He felt that we shouldn't have to compromise in order to find happiness, and that love should be easy. I briefly considered the fact that I might be married to a delusional maniac, then rejected the thought and explained to him that marriage was all about compromise. People change over time and, as a result, relationships must shift in order to accommodate that change. I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. According to the results of YourTango's Power of Attraction survey, 33 percent of people feel that "getting [their] partner to change" is a good way to reignite attraction. But should you even be together if you need your partner to change in order to be happy?
If you feel like you're dating your financial opposite, you're probably right. It turns out we gravitate towards romantic partners with conflicting money attitudes to help balance our own tendencies.
Imagine hearing some guy you'd like to sleep with talk about his ex: she has this STD, she got it from him, there's no test for it, and there's a chance that being physical with him—even with all other safety precautions—may lead to a whole terrifying smorgasbord of side effects, and that he'd like you to know all this before going any further. It can be a bit of a mood killer.
It's exciting to move in together, but once you're under the same roof and spending every single night together, will your sex life land in the dumps? Will the proximity take the heat out of the relationship and breed boredom? Will illusions be shattered when you've seen each other in your least attractive moments?
Everyone who's been in a long-term relationship knows that sex goes from sizzle to fizzle after a couple years. In this interview we talk with Trista Sutter about her and Ryan's participation in The K-Y® Brand Intimacy Experiment, and how they keep their marriage sexy after kids.
It can be difficult to stay connected to our loved ones in today's hectic world. We struggle to keep friendships strong with coffee dates and quick emails, and we diligently pencil in phone calls to our grandparents even when we're swamped. But our romantic relationships rarely receive the same type of attention that our friends and families do, and the results can be devastating. Imagine looking across the kitchen table at the familiar contours of your husband's face… and realizing that the man you married now feels like a total stranger.
Are you satisfied with your love life? Any areas that need improvement? This January, YourTango is launching a 31-Day Love Life Makeover to help couples enhance their relationship and help singles find the person of their dreams. With that in mind, we want to know how you feel about your love life. Please tell us!
"When are you going to give me grandchildren? What ever happened to Paul? He was such a nice guy. So, are you seeing someone?" If you've ever heard a question like this and not known what to say, you're not alone. "I have so many clients who freeze when they get asked these types of questions," says dating and relationship coach and YourTango Expert Marni Battista. Your life is your own, and you should only talk about things you're comfortable sharing. Here's how you can steer clear of these potential social landmines.
Between selecting the perfect gift for his parents, booking last-minute flights and spending hours in a cramped car, most people get frustrated at some point during the winter holidays. Unfortunately, the closest target for those frustrations often happens to be one's partner. After asking the YourTango Experts how to alleviate the season's stresses, we've compiled six tips to help you safeguard your love life from the pressures of holiday celebrations.
What does it feel like to date a female breadwinner? Are guys OK with a woman who makes more money than them? Our writer's fiancée made 15 times more than him—and he loved it. Plus, advice on how to date a man who makes less.
Post-recession, women are increasingly dating and marrying men who make less money than them. Welcome to the age of the sugar mama.
At least for today: Do not be angry. Do not worry. Be grateful. Work with diligence. Be kind to people. Those are the five principles of Reiki that practitioners live by. Simple advice for a better life—better relationships included. A Reiki Master shares what this Dr. Oz-endorsed practice can do for your relationship.
Adding a new person to the family, especially a new daughter-in-law, can threaten mom's position as matriarch-in-chief. There won't be friction in every situation, but we've heard enough complaints about getting along with mothers-in-law to know that many of you could use some help in this department. So in the interest of family harmony, here are seven tips for spending the holidays with your new mom.
I have probably been on more dates than 99.5 percent of the earth's population (oh how I wish I were joking) so I've learned a little something about it, including how to stay positive, even when it seems like your last good date was six months and/or a few dozen romantic dinners ago. Here are seven ways to stay upbeat in the face of dating dreariness.