"Your dad is gay!" my friend spat out one day when we were in a fight. It was as if she were accusing me of something horrible. I was nine at the time. That night, I confronted my mother. "Heather said Dad is gay. He's not, right?" She paused—a long pause—that confirmed my worst fear. I felt betrayed. "How could my dad do this to me? And more importantly, what was I going to tell my friends?"
The burn of a sip of whiskey is a metaphor for the painful moment in any relationship when you realize everything could conceivably fall apart. However the sweetness and headiness of a great relationship or malt is only in contrast to the bitterness and chance of loss.
After one-and-a-half years of fruitless (and awkward) babymaking sex, we had decided it was time to move forward with Plan B and seek out fertility testing. It was a big step. After all, not so long ago, we had been on the brink of separation, in part because of our frustrated efforts at procreation.
Surprisingly, the number one thing couples seek therapy for—and break up over—isn't something as juicy as an unsatisfying sex life, money battles or infidelity. It's communication. Specifically, the breakdown of it. In other words, learning how to communicate with your partner could be the best thing you ever learn how to do.
A recent survey of counseling professionals from YourTango.com—the leader in love and relationships—has dispelled some long-held myths about relationships, namely that couples fight primarily about sex and money (or the lacks therof), and that infidelity is more toxic to a relationship than any other issue.
It's official. Chris Brown and Rihanna are together again—musically, at least. While Rihanna may have forgiven Chris Brown, who pled guilty to felony assault, others can't forget the startling photo of a battered Rihanna and fear it could happen again. Which begs the question, can an abuser really change?
Samantha* is 30 years old. She is a makeup artist; a nanny; a professing Christian, and an advocate against human trafficking. This cause is near and dear to her heart because she has been there herself. At the age of 24, she wandered into what she thought was a job interview in Southern California and ended up being drugged, beaten, raped, and forced to work in the commercial sex industry.
Whether or not researchers have Blue Monday (this year, today, January 13) pinned accurately as the most depressing day of the year, the winter months can be a particularly challenging time for those who struggle with depression. The cold weather, holidays and reduced daylight hours are enough to make anyone feel a little bit sad. But depression is so much more than just feeling sad. Depression is sadness and it’s hopelessness, fear, a paralyzing sense that this is how you’re going to feel forever, that this misery is never going to go away, things won’t get better. Then there’s the guilt: the guilt that comes from feeling like you’re failing everyone around you. Like you should be able to snap out of this and come back to life. Feeling like you’re letting everybody down.
Cancelling our wedding plans would mean hassle, embarrassment, and disappointing grandma: I just couldn’t call it off. Ryan’s the right guy for me; I’ve never doubted that. But what do you do when marrying the right guy means living the wrong life?
My first marriage was a nine-year exercise in co-dependence. Believe me, I don't say that lightly. We dove head first into a relationship built on controlling one another and indulging a neediness that knew no bounds. We should have known from day one that we were setting ourselves up for massive failure.
In the game of love, few moves are more damaging and cruel than cheating. And yet, according to one recent survey, 25 percent of women say they'd be willing to cheat if someone piqued their interest
Brenda's story is one told in Sin by Silence, a documentary about domestic violence's worst-case-scenarios where the victims are incarcerated for killing their abusers. The film makes its world television premiere on Investigation Discovery at 8 PM ET on October 17, coinciding with Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Award-winning director Olivia Klaus helmed the project, which was close to her heart and hit close to home.
We'd stopped being good to each other. We were no longer loving spouses. But by the time my husband suggested separating, I had reached an epiphany. Our marriage was worth saving, I'd decided, and I was willing to do anything it took.
A relationship without basic trust has no security. Without trust there's no way to predict another person's behaviors, which can make us consumed with anxiety. Since we can't stand anxiety, we resort to blame. And blame kills relationships.
I have been married almost four years now. For the most part, my relationship with my husband, Matt, who happens to be a matchmaker and dating coach, has pretty much been "out there" in terms of our views regarding dating, marriage, love, how men think and how to handle a breakup. We have written books, appeared on television and given lots of advice. But perhaps the one area that we haven’t had too much experience in dealing with: children. Until recently that is.