If the Olympic games offered nagging as a competitive sport, my mother would take the gold, silver and bronze. I never wanted to be like my mother, and I consciously chose to be as un-nag-like as possible in all my relationships. And when I got married, I let a lot of things happen that I didn't necessarily want to happen, simply because I was too afraid to speak up. I have learned the hard way that marriage is all about communication and without it, well, it's just a matter of time before someone asks for a divorce...if they can get up the nerve to actually ask for one.
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Trapeze artists might be some of the bravest people in the world, but they're also among the most vulnerable. Tremendous trust—in themselves, other people, and the universe—is necessary to be able to climb up a 25-foot ladder, grab onto a thin bar, and jump. Relationships have always been my trapeze bars.
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I find it very unsettling that we're more comforted by the notion that Huma is a heartless, self-serving, political mastermind than we are by the other option: that Huma knows her husband better than anyone, sees him for his flaws, for the pain he has caused and continues to cause her, and loves him anyway. Because that is just too hard for us to swallow.
We seem to have lost patience with everything. We don't read books like we used to. We channel surf. We move on if a web page takes more than five seconds to download. A major problem we face as a society is that relationships — the bedrock of our society — are being treated with the same impatience as everything else.
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I have attempted to block out a particular moment from this past winter and have utterly failed. Mere months have passed, yet that moment — along with the few months that preceded it — have aged me enormously, and I’m only in my twenties. It wasn't until my ex girlfriend's problem surfaced that my eyes opened to an epidemic that's been taking down my entire community.
Three years ago, Chrisanna Northrup was a fairly typical wife and working mother of three; she and her husband both worked long hours, cared for their kids and had little time left over for themselves. Eager to learn from the experiences of other couples, she launched The Normal Bar project, surveying nearly 100,000 people to glean the collected wisdom of what makes a happy relationship tick.
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When the news arrived last Friday that the beloved General David Petraeus had cheated on his wife of 37 years with his biographer, Paula Broadwell, I almost ignored it as a non-event. In a different world, I would perhaps be shocked myself. But having lived it, I think the answer to why this happens is much simpler than we wish to believe.
How can you tell if you're nagging? Our experts sound in on the telltale signs.
"Put down the toilet seat!" "Clean the gutters!" "Change the light bulb!" These 'obvious' bits of nagging are actually the laziest forms of relationship clichés. [Yawn.] Not all women are naggers, and not all men are nag-ees. That said, nagging does happen. And because it's so hard for men and examples. (I may have exagerrated just a little, but you get the point.) What You Say: "Oh, are you playing Madden again?" What He Hears: "Video games are for teenage boys or fat virgins. When will you grow up and become a man with self-respect? You disgust me."
Are all long-term relationships destined to fall into a battle of nagger vs. naggee?