LATEST FEATURES IN RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES

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"I heard the warning voice in my head reminding me it was dangerous territory."

How An Affair Saved My Marriage

It started with a flirty dance while out with friends. It turned into a torrid year-long affair that her husband never knew about. One writer shares her tale of infidelity and how, against all odds, adultery put her on the path back to her husband. "I heard the warning voice in my head reminding me that this was dangerous territory: however alone I might feel, I was, in fact, married. And then, for the first time in 10 years, I silenced it. As Alex placed his hands on my hips, I knew with absolute clarity that I was about to have an affair. I knew it was a decision that could unravel even the strongest of unions. I never could have guessed that it would save mine."

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"There was an undeniable magnetic pull between Fred and me."

I Didn't Marry The Love Of My Life ... On Purpose

I was 17 and Fred was 24 when we first met. What began as puppy love grew into a lifelong bond and made me believe in undying love. There were a few times when I second-guessed my decision to marry someone else, but our dynamic made it undeniable: We were meant to be in love with each other, but that didn't necessarily mean we belonged together.

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Our girls have learned to love you in multidimensional ways. And so have I.

A Letter To My Husband In Heaven

Hubby in heaven, it will be eight years this Monday since the day you left this world. I used to imagine how would the pain feel years from the day you left. Remember you told me it would happen and that it would be ok because you would no longer be here? You were so right about so many things. But the most change took place within me.

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The distance has our heads spinning, but we've never been closer.

We Live 9,349 Miles Apart, But We're Killing It In The Bedroom

I live in Orlando. He lives in Australia. At any given moment, there are 9,349 miles (plus, one hell of an expensive airplane ticket) separating me from my boyfriend. Let me be clear, this man is the greatest love of my life. He's on my mind and in my heart constantly, but I only see him four times a year for 2-week visits, and you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way.

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The Shocking Truth: 4 Real Stories Of Marital Rape In America

Cynthia's marital rape nightmare began around 1996. For the first year of her marriage Cynthia of New Hampshire had no problems with her husband. He was prone to angry fits, but nothing seemed overly outside the norm. When the two had an argument in their second year of marriage her ex-husband hit her, and Cynthia left.

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"I don't need to be healed, I need to be loved."

I'm Not Broken: Stop Kissing My Mastectomy Scars

Men, I get it. You're good guys and you want to do the right thing. But I'm not in need of having my scars kissed, licked, worshiped or healed by your magic touch. I'm not broken. I don't need fixing. I've come to terms with my chest scars — they're no big deal to me anymore. It's time to start paying attention to the parts of me that actually feel.

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'American Hustle' is the top date night movie, according to a Match.com survey.

We're All Con Artists: 5 Love Lessons From 'American Hustle'

'American Hustle' — nominated for 10 Academy Awards and voted the #1 date movie of all this year's Best Picture nominees — is also a fascinating study in love and relationships. Here are four profound things this film brought to light about love, life and what we all do to get by.

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Instead of calling his dealer, he could have picked up the phone and called for help.

Like All Addicts, Philip Seymour Hoffman Did Have A Choice

I have a pattern when it comes to stories about celebrities who overdose. The day the news breaks, I scan the headlines. I react with a mix of sadness and disgust—and familiarity, as I was raised by two addicts. But in cases like Philip Seymour Hoffman's death, I'm not interested in the 'juicy' details. My eyes scan these stories looking for the little people: the kids left behind.

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In his interview with GQ, Duck Dynasty's Robertson compared homosexuality to bestiality.

'Duck' Dilemma: Phil Robertson's Remarks Point To A Bigger Issue

The Koran, Torah and New Testament all vilify homosexuals. As much I think Phil Robertson is an ignorant buffoon, the man was simply abiding by the tenets of his faith—he even paraphrased from the New Testament. Our culture is now starting to move past centuries-old biases against sexual orientation, but organized religion has not—and cannot—do the same without abandoning scriptural teachings. if our culture is to advance, we may need to more openly question the ancient Middle-Eastern documents on which we still base it.

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The opposite of effective communication.

Nagging Can Ruin Your Kid's Future Relationship: I'm Living Proof

If the Olympic games offered nagging as a competitive sport, my mother would take the gold, silver and bronze. I never wanted to be like my mother, and I consciously chose to be as un-nag-like as possible in all my relationships. And when I got married, I let a lot of things happen that I didn't necessarily want to happen, simply because I was too afraid to speak up. I have learned the hard way that marriage is all about communication and without it, well, it's just a matter of time before someone asks for a divorce...if they can get up the nerve to actually ask for one.

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The author in flight. Photo: Carla Ciccone

When I Wouldn't Confront My Trust Issues, They Confronted Me

Trapeze artists might be some of the bravest people in the world, but they're also among the most vulnerable. Tremendous trust—in themselves, other people, and the universe—is necessary to be able to climb up a 25-foot ladder, grab onto a thin bar, and jump. Relationships have always been my trapeze bars.