It sounds unromantic, but more and more women have stopped worrying and learned to love the prenup. Not only can a prenuptial agreement protect you from the unthinkable, Corinne Asturias reports, it can tell you all about the person you are planning to marry. " We know that, in the U.S., half of all marriages will end in divorce. We know that none of those newlywed couples beaming with promise from the wedding pages dream a split is in their future. We know that when things go awry in an intimate relationship, they can go from harrowing to hideous, overnight. And we know that under the cold, steely gaze of the law, fairness can be reduced to a fairy tale. And yet, when one person in the relationship brings up the notion of a prenuptial agreement, it's like offering up a shot of ipecac even though there's no poison in sight."
From tear-jerkers to the warm fuzzies, the New York Public Library shares with YourTango their top 10 picks for the greatest romantic reads of all time. They can melt your heart, make you laugh and leave you longing for a Kleenex. Who can resist the most sought after romantic novels of all time? Whether you are looking for that special someone, or blissfully in love, these ageless classics know just how to pull on those heartstrings. So, jump under the covers, turn down the lights and get flippin'.
Every girl supposedly dreams of her fairytale wedding. It turns out that the fantasy of a pouffy white dress, dramatic walk down the aisle, and a dozen bridesmaids in Vera Wang may actually be the dream of the bridal industry, which is profiting off all the chocolate fountains, personalized water bottles, and unity candles it can convince a budding Bridezilla to buy. Rebecca Mead, author of "One Perfect Day," (an exposé of the wedding industry,) blames wedding magazines and websites for the tremendous pressure to conform to what a wedding is supposed to be. Here, we get tips from three brides didn't conform, instead managing to escape the clutches of the bridal industrial complex and have truly personal weddings. Whether you're looking to spend big bucks or small, dress in white or go green, invite many or few, you'll find you can plan a wedding that represents your relationship, not the wedding industry!
Today, the majority of couples getting married are older and already out of college. However, many couples still marry young. Couples who marry young face a lot of challenges and benefits not experienced by the older and wiser couples. When you are in college many of your goals, dreams and ambitions haven't been clearly defined. And as the couples grow, they must learn to adapt and change with their spouse. For Katie Thompson growing old with her husband meant growing a part. Katie had to learn how to redefine her marriage after they had both matured into different people. For some couples growing together into different people works. For others, it's a deal breaker.
When the inevitable finally came, I was home with my daughter and boyfriend. The attack came on fast, but he never panicked. He watched and listened as my daughter administered my life-saving potassium and explained to him to watch for signs that my esophagus and diaphragm were paralyzed, both indicators that a trip to the ER was necessary. I could hear him asking her all kinds of questions, never with a sense of panic in his voice. He knelt at the side of the bed holding my hand, speaking softly and reassuring me that I was doing fine and that he and my daughter had things under control. He stayed there for an hour before I finally started coming around and moving again.
A woman discovers her grandfather's secret love of pornography. "I didn't know if I should laugh or vomit as I realized grandpa, the man who let me stay up late, eating "ippy" (our nickname for ice cream) out of the container, was into hardcore pornography. I couldn't help but feel an immense sadness as I grasped just what a lonely life my grandfather has been leading."
I'm in a relationship where we put all of our cards on the table. We are honest about our feelings with one another, and we're honest about our feelings about other people. Every once in a while he tells me that a really cute redhead cruised him at the coffee shop. I respond by showing him a dirty text message one of my guy friends sent me. The result? We just laugh at each other, then have amazing sex driven by the attraction other people have for us.
We live in an age of intricate technologies, 24/7 entertainment and sensory overload—so why is it so tough to think up creative dates? Of course, early in a relationship, you're so smitten that even dinner at Denny's seems exciting. But when you've done the ho-hum and the humdrum—dinner, a movie, bowling—you crave new ideas to keep things interesting. Here are ten ideas for great—and mostly cheap—dates that will not only entertain but allow you to get to know your mate in a whole new way.
When it comes to parenting, couples often take two different approaches. He prefers to let them learn from the school of hard knocks, you like to protect and nurture them. Which way is the right way? How do you parent with two different parenting styles? One writer learns that the best thing about having two parents is that you and your children learn that there is no one right way. Sometimes it's OK to stand underneath them as they climb the monkey bars. Other times its OK to let them climb to the very top of the tree. Kids and parents both learn from multiple perspectives.
The Sex and the City movie shined light on a phenomenon that nearly every woman deals with at one point or another: clashing with a friend's love interest. But in real life when the friends don't get along with the boyfriend, things rarely resolve neatly. "Says Allison, a twentysomething who lives in Manhattan, 'I have over time disliked a friend's choice of men many times... I felt like she often chose men who were selfish, destructive, patriarchal, and lacking depth. We often clashed because when her boyfriends would hurt her... I would get in full defense mode.' Unfortunately, even as Allison helped her friend through the hardships in her friend's romances, their friendship fizzled because of her friend's less-than-gallant boyfriends." Learn more about the friend vs boyfriend debate by reading the full article.
I'm not normally what you'd call old-fashioned, as a 24-year-old feminist, agnostic video game developer. But when it comes to my wedding, I want to be the princess from the storybook. Despite hunting down the latest fashions in fusion recipes, high-end laptops, and nightclubs, I just don't have the need to make my wedding "modern."
Does coming from a broken family guarantee broken relationships in the future? Not necessarily. Some experts say that children of divorce may fear commitment, but this fear can actually work in their favor by allowing them to have more experiences and get to know themselves as they emotionally mature into adulthood, before making a commitment. Licensed therapist and author Elisabeth Joy Lamotte tells us that healthy, happy relationships are attainable through five easy steps (no, one of them is not matricide), which she's outlined in her book "Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce: 5 Steps To A Happy Relationship." Lamotte discusses with YourTango the importance of recognizing the specific effects of our parents' relationship on our own love lives, whether it was troubled, divorced or even healthy. Read the Q&A to learn about the steps and how to make commitment phobia work to your advantage.
When I proposed to Nicole last October, it was the first time I'd ever gone through the craziness of purchasing a ring, but it wasn't the first time she'd gotten one. It was my first engagement, but her second marriage, making our wedding—like about a third of the wedding in America these days—an "encore wedding," often a second wedding after divorce. Some guys might get jealous— of her first engagement ring, first honeymoon, first house or first-marriage children—but for me, it was almost the opposite. Her first wedding was "her" day, which meant that our wedding was wide open to be "our" day. So what exactly are the rules of an encore wedding? Well, there may not be many, but here's rule number one: it's poor form to compare the current wedding to any previous ones.
When you marry, will you change your name? Hyphenate it? Make him take your name? If you're already married, ow did you decide? Although tradition dictates that women do take their husband's last names, it's a personal choice. Here, one woman describes her decision. "We've heard about our options and the inherent difficulties that go along with each. If we keep our names, our in-laws will hate us. If we hyphenate, no one will be able to alphabetize it properly; our medical records will be repeatedly lost. If we take our husband's last name, we'll forever feel like a part of our identity was lost, which may or may not be a bigger problem than the missing medical records. We've certainly heard that making the choice sucks. Many of us spend hours weighing the options—even before we're engaged. We even go so far as to speculate about which celebrity brides will take their husband's last names. Are we hoping that their choices will somehow provide us a glimpse into a magical crystal ball and reveal a time in the future when this isn't so damn difficult?"
Despite my views, I find the recent speculation about the death of marriage absurd, if only because it doesn’t acknowledge the hypnotic power of matrimony. All the proof you need can be found in the tight smiles of single men at weddings, in the ever-teary eyes of the unwed women, in the fear and envy behind both. The very thing, I realized, that my girlfriend of two years and I were walking into as we arrived at the rehearsal dinner.