The past 25 years have left women's plates increasingly—some might argue, precariously—overloaded, as they try to keep healthy portions of career, love and family. In her upcoming new book, "In Her Own Sweet Time: Unexpected Adventures In Finding Love, Commitment, And Motherhood," New York City journalist Rachel Lehmann-Haupt explores the expanding buffet of choices that exist for women hoping to "have it all" today.
Groomzilla doesn't get the same press as his twin sister, Bridezilla. In fact, some people still don't know he exists. But believe me, he's out there. According to Bridal Guide magazine, an astounding 80 percent of grooms are now full planning partners in their weddings. And the results are unsettling. An excerpt from Surviving Groomzilla: A Bride's Guide, by Craig Bridger.
Would Andy think Jake was as perfect as I did? Perfect manners. Perfect behavior. Perfect attitude. Jake had just turned three. He was a sweet kid, affectionate and kind—but perfect manners? Who was I kidding? It wasn't as if "thank you" was exactly a recognized word in his vocabulary.
Last night I had a drink (okay, we had three) with my ex-fiance’s mother—she had called me previous to her coming into town and has asked if I wanted to meet up. When I told a few friends that I was planning on meeting her for drinks, a couple thought I was a little nutty. One friend said, “I would advise against that. People lose things that mean a lot to them when break ups happen, but moving on does not mean keeping the ex’s mother in your life.” When I explained that she was much more to me than my ex’s mother, and that the relationship we hoped to maintain was about friendship, and one that had nothing to do with HIM, he softened. Still, though I was 99% excited to see her, a small part of me was nervous—would we end up talking about my ex? What if I was to find something out that would hurt me? Would hurt to see her and be reminded that she could ONLY be my friend and not my mother-in-law?
A former three-sport athlete becomes a full-time father when he loses his job and becomes a stay-at-home dad. At first he doesn't know what he's doing and feels isolated from his friends, but it gets better. Spending time with his kids helps him communicate with his wife, he meets a new set of men who are also dads and he becomes and expert diaper-changer. "Being a househusband put this ex-sports jock in his place and showed me what it truly means to be someone's hero."
Post-wedding depression is real, says one newlywed, who was surprised by the just-married blues. "The first year of marriage is the hardest, I’d been told many times by my friends. While I wasn’t sure if I was prepared for the uncertain road that lay ahead, I certainly felt like I’d gotten fair warning and couldn’t expect to be surprised by the challenges that would come once I entered marriage. But there were some other parts of newlywed life that bummed me out, stuff that I never thought would have mattered to me ... until it did.
Only Madonna, Ritchie, a marriage therapist (and perhaps a therapist's nosy administrative assistant) will ever know whether the former couple really drew up a "love pact." But it does perk our interest. Should we all have one of these? Are they only for the rich and famous? With the right guidelines, can they improve—and in some cases—save a marriage?
A lifetime of holidays, birthdays, and other assorted gatherings with his brood may send shivers down your spine. Whether his mother is constantly smacking you with backhanded compliments or his dad can't find one decent thing to say throughout dinner, we've got you covered. We've grabbed five real-life scenarios and taken them to the experts to help make the holidays with his family a little brighter.
When you're getting over a breakup you friends support you with support and ice cream—usually it's your female friends who come to the rescue. But after breaking up with her fiancé, one woman realizes how helpful and understanding her guy friends can be. "When the s**t hit the fan with the ex, I immediately called three people—two close girl friends and my mom. For a long time, they were the only people I told and certainly the only people I leaned on for support. And they were amazing, in so many ways. But as more people in my life started to find out, I was utterly stupified by how hugely compassionate and kind all of them were, but especially my male friends."
Some people are non-stop flirts: they flirt with everyone, even people they don't like. In this essay Rachel Kramer Bussel describes flirting for sport, flirting signs, and decides that it's OK to flirt with everyone: "It isn’t always about the flirtee’s reaction, but what the flirter gets out of it."
After the birth of her daughter, one woman learns how to come to terms with her mother-in-law: "With the birth of my daughter came the clarity to see why I rebuffed her: I did not want my mother-in-law to replace my mother. That hole in my heart was purposefully empty, a placeholder for the mother I couldn't have. My immature behavior was stuck back in my 23-year-old mind, the one that lost her parent far too young… It took gaining a daughter to find a mother—not the one I was originally given, but a supportive, giving parental figure nonetheless."
It sounds unromantic, but more and more women have stopped worrying and learned to love the prenup. Not only can a prenuptial agreement protect you from the unthinkable, Corinne Asturias reports, it can tell you all about the person you are planning to marry. " We know that, in the U.S., half of all marriages will end in divorce. We know that none of those newlywed couples beaming with promise from the wedding pages dream a split is in their future. We know that when things go awry in an intimate relationship, they can go from harrowing to hideous, overnight. And we know that under the cold, steely gaze of the law, fairness can be reduced to a fairy tale. And yet, when one person in the relationship brings up the notion of a prenuptial agreement, it's like offering up a shot of ipecac even though there's no poison in sight."
From tear-jerkers to the warm fuzzies, the New York Public Library shares with YourTango their top 10 picks for the greatest love stories of all time. They can melt your heart, make you laugh and leave you longing for a Kleenex.
Every girl supposedly dreams of her fairytale wedding. It turns out that the fantasy of a pouffy white dress, dramatic walk down the aisle, and a dozen bridesmaids in Vera Wang may actually be the dream of the bridal industry, which is profiting off all the chocolate fountains, personalized water bottles, and unity candles it can convince a budding Bridezilla to buy. Rebecca Mead, author of "One Perfect Day," (an exposé of the wedding industry,) blames wedding magazines and websites for the tremendous pressure to conform to what a wedding is supposed to be. Here, we get tips from three brides didn't conform, instead managing to escape the clutches of the bridal industrial complex and have truly personal weddings. Whether you're looking to spend big bucks or small, dress in white or go green, invite many or few, you'll find you can plan a wedding that represents your relationship, not the wedding industry!
Today, the majority of couples getting married are older and already out of college. However, many couples still marry young. Couples who marry young face a lot of challenges and benefits not experienced by the older and wiser couples. When you are in college many of your goals, dreams and ambitions haven't been clearly defined. And as the couples grow, they must learn to adapt and change with their spouse. For Katie Thompson growing old with her husband meant growing a part. Katie had to learn how to redefine her marriage after they had both matured into different people. For some couples growing together into different people works. For others, it's a deal breaker.