Having a child irrevocably alters the balance of a partnership. The responsibility, time commitment and difficulty having baby is tough, no matter how strong your union; romance and sex after kids can be hard to accomplish. Although many couples decide the disruption is worth it, finding a new equilibrium can be challenging. Here, one mother comments on why she won't do it again. In her own words, "admitting that bringing a child into a relationship might ruin said relationship verges on the unpatriotic. Like most of us, I expect romance to survive marriage and committed cohabitation. I’m more dubious that it can survive raising a child."
An excerpt from Wall Street great Janet Hanson's book; "More Than 85 Broads;" about life after divorce for a workaholic. After she ended her 4-year marriage to a colleague, after realizing that they weren't in love, the Goldman Sachs banker decided to reevaluate her life. After that reflection, she realized she really could have it all with a little compromise.
Planning the wedding isn't the only stressful thing about getting married. Troubleshoot this exciting time so that you can walk down the aisle without any weight on your shoulders. Most brides are afraid to give in to their sadness and fear, thinking that once they turn on the faucet, it'll never shut off. In reality, emotions work the opposite way. What helps brides most is to embrace reality instead of remaining wedded to their fantasies.
Getting married or know someone getting married? Need a little help with a florist, DJ, photographer or something else? We've listed some of the best online resources to get you from engaged to your honeymoon. Inside you'll find sites with advice on gifting for charity, creating a personal wedding website, planning an inexpensive ceremony, DIY weddings registering for gifts, hiring limos, designer wedding gowns, local florists, bands, and wedding singers, unusual wedding ideas and more. Also check out the comments where YourTango users list their favorite online wedding planning solutions.
All of you would be wedding guests know that attending a wedding can be stressful. Wedding etiquette demands that your attention remain focused on the bride, but what about the pressure it puts on you and your budding relationship? Tango investigates. "Any bride will tell you—at great length—how stressful it is to plan a wedding. But what about the guests? Rarely does anyone acknowledge their pain. Every year there are around 2.2 million weddings in the United States, and roughly 300,000 weddings here in the U.K. Multiply that by the length of the average guest list—about 200, in both countries—to get a sense of just how many of us go through the familiar routine: pick main course, pick present, pick outfit, pick date. If you’re in a serious relationship, the last choice is already made for you, but you can still find yourself picking—at each other. The truth is that these lovely, sacred events—opportunities for voyeuristic romance and, hopefully, some amour of your own—often wreak havoc on relationships that are, shall we say, at the tipping point."
"Sweet Ruin" by Cathi Hanauer and "Henderson's House Rules" by E.L. Henderson and David E. O' Connor reviewed
He‚Äôd love to write a novel; she wants to study law. Couples who are willing to live off a single paycheck can give each other something priceless: freedom. While one half goes through life changes; the other half is able to provide financial stability; Martha Baer reports.
“His” and “Hers” towels are one thing, but couplehood is really about what’s “Ours,” says Michelle Madhok. Unite and conquer the bathroom clutter with products that are perfect for two.
Diamonds are forever... Diamonds are a girl's best friends. But do you know the history of the ring? It's not just a sparkly bit of carbon and metal. It's history is global in scope and epic in origin and no owes no small part to clever, timely marketing by DeBeers. Before you take the plunge, you may want to know what that Tiffany's ring means and when and where this relatively new tradition started.
The author's generation fought to have careers as well as families. Now, more and more young mothers are opting to raise their kids full time. But what happens when a husband leaves, gets laid off, or dies? Leslie Bennetts makes the case for keeping the day job. "I spent many years establishing a rewarding professional life before having two children — just as my biological clock was winding down—and ever since then I've felt as though I won the lottery. A great career! A wonderful husband! Two beautiful, healthy children! Lucky me! Imagine my surprise, then, to learn that Having It All—the quintessential goal of recent generations of women—has gone out of fashion. Who knew?"
The love of her life won’t be the father of her children. Susan King helps one woman make an impossible choice between her desire for her man and for children.
How do you preserve the mystery when you share a medicine cabinet? What can you share and what's best kept private? Here is some advice on how to navigate your personal hygiene routines and the intimate shared space of the bathroom.
It turns out that planning a wedding isn't that easy. The stress of minor issues such as where to have a wedding can be overwhelming. Now throw in the guest list, a wedding budget, and the inlaws and even the sweetest woman can turn into a bridezilla... months and months before the actual wedding. Kelly Bare explores the idea of that it's not 100% 'your day' after all and that a New York wedding probably isn't worth the hassle.