According to an article by iVillage, men hate it when you criticize other women, are too emotional, use sex as a weapon, and pretend to be virtuous. "A recurring theme among many women is that they try to place themselves under a "holier than thou" light, never admitting that they fooled around or dividing their number of boyfriends by five. Now, we applaud those ladies who truly are innocent and pure, but the rest should stop trying to water down their past. Women are allowed to have just as much fun as guys, and they should find a man who can appreciate that."
Do men like to be pursued? It depends says iVillage's Mr. Man. If you are in a relationship, Mr. Man says go ahead full force: "If you're already in a relationship with a guy, the answer is yes, men love it when the woman makes the first move. It's exciting, makes the man feel wanted and allows him to express himself more confidently as things progress." But if you are just starting out take it slow. Try dropping hints like flattering him, asking provocative questions and letting the conversation lull so he can build up courage to make a move.
Most women dealing with frustrations in the dating arena are too hard on themselves. They think they lack the good looks and personality needed to attract a man. The truth is that it is often only their presentation that needs some tweaking.
From "Stranger Than Fiction" to Enchanted", one man lists the best movies to watch on a date. Not only will these movies appeal to both guys and girls but they are also completely make-out friendly. This list mixes both new and classic movie titles, fun favorites, thrillers and romantic comedies.
The point is, when you're faced with a situation where you have to confront your man with his faults, be gentle and be specific. The male ego is a very fragile thing and the comprehending part of the male brain is very small. (Not that size matters, right? And, even if it does, it's not really a "fault", is it?) Don't be afraid to spell out exactly what you think your fella's fault is. Write it on the bottom of the toilet seat if you have to. He's sure to see it there, since there's 99% chance he never puts it down. At the same time, be compassionate when you're telling him. Most men want to please their mate, so if you confront him in an informal and easy-going manner (try being nude when you do it), he'll be much more willing to accept your position and change his faulty ways.
Forget everything you think about men and women. Dr. Janet Hyde argues that the sexes really aren't that different after all. From nurturing, communication and sympathy some researchers believe that all of this Mars and Venus stuff should go the way of Pluto: "People think that they can’t communicate across gender in heterosexual couples and this is a problem. But in fact communication styles are quite similar and men and women communicate quite well all the time. Sometimes when I give talks to big audiences, after talking for about 20 minutes, I say are you understanding me and of course they are. I am speaking perfect English."
You are in a relationship and happy and then bam, seemingly without warning it's over. But there was warning, you just didn't see it. One guy spells out the signs that your relationship is over and you are about to be kicked to the curb faster than that couch your roommate puked all over. The signs that your relationship is doomed include, telling and ominous music, a reluctance to talk about the future and little or no sex.
Communicating with your spouse is often a tricky business that seems more like voodoo than having and honest-to-goodness chat. But really, it’s not that hard. It’s about respect, not being critical or making assumptions, and holding your tongue, says SavvyMiss.com. "That grunting, mumbling, heap of man slumped on your couch may not be Shakespeare, but he’s perfectly capable of carrying on adult conversations."It’s true; we put one of the rules—. 4: Don’t Talk Too Much—to the test and found that they actually work.
Forget Mars and Venus. If you want to figure out how to talk to men, look at animals. Whether you're training a dog, a horse or a guy, certain rules apply: Be direct, be succinct and listen to what they're trying to communicate with you.
We often assume that men don't obsess over details in a relationship, but in fact, most guys will tell you that they do notice the little things –from the kind of cereal you prefer to the way your voice goes up about an octave when you get in an argument. In fact, it's often the details–such as how you speak to waiters, what you eat and how hard you hackle– that easily turn into deal-breakers! So what are the non-negotiable traits– be they physical or personality-based – that most men take into consideration when choosing a mate? Real men dish on reveal the little things they say can take a relationship from a rolling boil to lukewarm in 10 seconds flat.
There are two words that make most men cringe: Wedding Season. Why is that? Is it a fear of commitment? Is it a desire to avoid the battle between Bridezilla and Momthra? We're not entirely sure,but ever notice how every movie with a wedding is automatically labeled a chick flick? Well we tracked down a few of the best wedding movies out there for the dudes. They prove that weddings aren't necessarily the beginning of the end, and they can even be fun. In order to make the list, the movie had to be mostly about a wedding (or series of weddings), it can't just have a tacked on wedding at the end (like the latest installment of certain adventure-archeology series). Also, the movie has to be something that a straight guy would watch with one of his buddies (buffer seat optional). From "Honeymoon in Vegas," to "Father of the Bride" these classics will let you have your cake and eat it, too. Wedding cake, that is..
What does life look like when all your friends are married off? One man confesses. "Being a bachelor in New York City. What's not to like, right? This place is teeming with single women as diverse as the day is long. It's like a U.N. General Assembly of available ladies, a veritable cornucopia of the finest specimens of the fairer sex. I should be channeling my inner Casanova and plunging headlong into the sea of single life, embracing it and all it has to offer. I should have a refined and unstoppable "game." I should have a little black book (er, Blackberry?) overflowing with phone numbers of my own personal coalition of the willing—to the point where I'd have to put a moratorium on adding newbies to the stable. ('Sorry, babe, I'm all out of space. Why don't you get a Sharpie and scribble your digits on my forearm?') I could be a rock star of a bachelor. Would that it were so. That's an interesting, if clichéd, fantasy. The reality is quite different. Because when you find yourself as the last man standing, after all your best friends have paired up, settled down, and had children, your social life goes through a game-changing realignment, and your outlook might require a re-envisioning of its own."
One writer discusses how much women influence men when it comes to grooming. With everything from hygiene to haircuts, a female's touch can make a channel his most confident and attractive self. And it turns out that most women aren't terribly into back hair. Whatever you do make sure to do it gently because under that woolly mammoth is a sensitive soul.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: men and multitasking. Question: My husband and I both juggle full-time jobs with caring for our toddler, but lately I’ve been frustrated by his inability to multitask. In the morning, I often do laundry and prepare our meals—but by the time I’m ready for work, he’s still in his pajamas! How can I get him to pick up the pace? –Laura, 36
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: dating and commitment. Question: I just started seeing this guy, and I think I'm falling for him. He tells me that though he likes me, he's still actively seeing other people. Should I wait for him to commit to me exclusively, or do I more on before I get too close? –Liza, 26