"V-Day." Sounds more like an invasion of Normandy than a day spent celebrating love and romance. And rightfully so. Sometimes the intricacies of preparing for the holiday resemble war-room strategy more than jubilation.For all us fighters out there, trying to stay strong against our own culture, I have some suggestions. Resistance is fine, but subversion is that much better. Don't cross your arms and insist on having a bad time just to spite everyone else. I don't want to overthrow V-Day. I want to reclaim it.
A former three-sport athlete becomes a full-time father when he loses his job and becomes a stay-at-home dad. At first he doesn't know what he's doing and feels isolated from his friends, but it gets better. Spending time with his kids helps him communicate with his wife, he meets a new set of men who are also dads and he becomes and expert diaper-changer. "Being a househusband put this ex-sports jock in his place and showed me what it truly means to be someone's hero."
Advice to make your New Year's Eve special, whether you're going out or staying in. Do drink Glogg; don't drink too much! Do know your party etiquette, don't spend too much time making appetizers. Do dress to impress, but don't worry if you're not going out!
When it comes to dating, there are so many rules. Rules, rules, rules. You can't call someone the day after you get her number. You're not supposed to wear a T-shirt with holes in it to your new flame's swanky birthday dinner. When someone says, "call me back—if you want to," the day after you have a "talk" about not "calling enough," maybe you should just call her back, even if you don't want to. If I just had a motorcycle and a leather jacket, I think things would be a whole lot easier. Those are rebel tip-offs. With a leather jacket, people know what kind of bad mamma jamma they are dealing with. And if, in your leather jacket, you wrote a poem about a girl, gave it to her, and then rode off on your motorcycle, she would be like, "Wow, he's so sexy," instead of being like, "Wow, ew." That's why I'm going to start smoking Rebel brand cigarettes. Maybe I should just get a pet snake or an electric guitar, too. Then they'll understand that rules don't apply to me.
My husband, James, is lying in bed, moping because his beloved Green Bay Packers just lost some football game. ?Frankly, I don't get it. Football is okay. I'm as happy as the next person to throw back a few beers and down greasy pizza on Sunday afternoon while watching men in tight pants run across a field. But the fact that James' mood revolves around weekly wins and losses? And that on any given Sunday for five months out of the year, his day can be made or ruined by a scoreboard? It boggles my mind.?? I don't understand why he's so upset. How can a game affect him so personally?? James stares at the ceiling and sighs. ??I'm about to remind him that he's not actually playing on the team he's so distraught over, but the lost puppy dog look he gives me makes me think better of it.??
I'm a social liberal, a product of my New England upbringing who thinks government can be run by professional Robin Hoods who redistribute wealth and carefully protect civil liberties. She is a fiscal conservative who thinks that the free market should be upheld at all costs. She's no war hawk, but she's no pacifist either. She thinks wars should be fought with hostile takeovers and marketing blitzes. I called her a robber baron, and she called me a socialist lite. They were like pet names. It's our luck that we met during the reign of Bush. We were equally disgusted by the ruling executive. Sure, we had different points of attack: I was horrified by the assault on civil liberties, while Karen was more concerned by the fiscal incompetence and costly doctrine of interventionism (she was, and still is, one of the few true isolationists I know). But we had a common enemy, and that allowed us to overlook the differences. But it was just that: an oversight.
Why do men never seem to listen and always want to control the remote? One man sheds light on some of the most prevalent male stereotypes and explains that while they may not be fair, sometimes they hold a kernel of truth: "For me, having control of the remote combines two impressive skills; knowledge of TV programming and quick, hand-eye coordination in the form of button pushing. Wondering if Ace of Cakes reruns are on at 8:30? I can tell you yes, they are."
It's the topic that every male in a relationship tries his best to avoid: What would you physically change about your partner? It turns out that "how do I look?" is a rather loaded question. Christopher Dickey explores the concept of body image and how it reflects on a relationship, and how flaws can sometimes be beautiful. Along the way he learns that "you look fine" is never an acceptable answer to any question.
I never thought there was anything weird about television advertising until someone started leaving the TV on in my office during the day. The commercials that followed the overcaffeinated yammering of the morning talk show hosts gave me a glimpse into what it must be like to be a woman. And it scared the hell out of me. Most women I know don’t live their lives in fear, but you wouldn’t be able to tell that from watching the ads. On TV, women worry about stubborn stains. They face dilemmas about floor wax and carpet cleaners and toilet bowls and grape juice on T-shirts. The women I know have plenty to worry about, sure. They can’t afford their apartments. They don’t know how much to trust their boyfriends. They don’t know how they’re going to get ahead when the big dogs at work all wear suits and ties. But if any of them are watching daytime TV for a little escapism, all they have to do is wait for the commercials, and life turns ugly again, fast.
Dean Chandler gives advice to males on accepting a partner who outearns them.
"When I think about her, I don't think: drunk. I think: runner. I think: artist. I see her dancing around our apartment, mouthing the words to Motown songs but miming disco moves. I consider how her voice deepens when she wants to talk about something serious, how she has no tolerance for indirect conversation or ambiguous language. I remember how my hands trembled when I met her. She wakes up in the morning in the middle of a conversation, asking, "What's the difference between a barnacle and a crustacean?" She has a long list of wacky endearments for me, including "my fresh coat of paint" and "my little prize-winning chicken," and she's in the very small group of people who think I'm fun--even when she's sober."
From football to NASCAR, even men who can barely throw a wiffle ball are obsessed with sports. Yet, this fanatic phenomena isn’t so crazy as it appears. One guy explains how for most men, the obsession with sports starts early, when they dreamed about being Nolan Ryan and Jerry Rice and grew when later their dreams of playing professional sports was cut short. Guy’s, argues the writer, have had to settle for a lifetime of living vicariously through the wins and losses of their favorite teams: "We have been encouraged, if not pushed into, such pursuits, told to dream of becoming the next Tom Brady, LeBron James, or Derek Jeter. No one ever sends an eight-year old outside to play "write the great American novel" or "make an Academy Award winning film." If they did, we would have an entire generation of children arguing in backyards over who got to be Ernest Hemingway or Woody Allen instead of Manny Ramirez or Peyton Manning."
Why is it that nice guys always finish last? So let's look into it with a deeper perspective. We all like being around nice people when it comes to friends and family but why doesn't it work when it comes to relationships? Why are nice guys always taken for granted? Learn some of the major reasons why women hate nice guys and what measures can be taken to stay away from that "Nice guy" image.
One man reveals where and how to find a good man, the man of your dreams. And guess what? It's not as hard as it sounds. Finding a good man boils down to defining "good" on your own terms, finding your passions and living a life that makes you feel happy. Join clubs and organizations around your hobbies and interests, live your life and don't worry too much about it. Guys are attracted to women who seem relaxed and happy. And keep an open mind. While you should know what a "good man" means to you, don’t get so set in your expectations that you miss the opportunities right in front of you.
According to an article by iVillage, men hate it when you criticize other women, are too emotional, use sex as a weapon, and pretend to be virtuous. "A recurring theme among many women is that they try to place themselves under a "holier than thou" light, never admitting that they fooled around or dividing their number of boyfriends by five. Now, we applaud those ladies who truly are innocent and pure, but the rest should stop trying to water down their past. Women are allowed to have just as much fun as guys, and they should find a man who can appreciate that."