Michelle Haimoff shares a hilarious story about being attracted to her Jewish cousin and then going through a night of missteps and humiliation, including a last-minute kiss before Grandma shows up at the door. What's the lesson to be learned? That dating and family definitely don't mix.
Picture this: It's the second course of an exquisite meal on your second date with an exquisite guy. From his first Match.com wink you thought to yourself, "he seems too good to be true" but, lo and behold, the real-life version measured up to his digital one. As you take in every one of his charming words, mesmerized by the way his lips wrap around his wine glass, you drift into fantasyland thinking, "Wow, he would make an amazing softball coach to our kids. I wonder if he's available the second weekend of June to go to my cousin's wedding. He's a guy I would give up my last name for." But you know what he's thinking? He's thinking, "I wonder if my roommate is home. Man, her cleavage is hot. We should probably switch from wine to liquor so she doesn't get sleepy and pass out on my sofa." His thoughts are nothing like yours... and as much as we hate to admit it, given how well you know each other (and his testosterone levels), his head is probably the one that's on straight.
Contrary to what Kermit the Frog once told us, it's actually pretty easy being green—if you use your imagination and are willing to be a little adventurous. Here are ten eco-friendly date ideas, all of which require very little effort. Try them out this Earth Day—or any day you want to have some fun without being hard on the planet. Go green dating!
First thing first: Can you go the distance? If you have a deep bank account, lots of frequent flier miles, a flexible work schedule or a desire to get out of town, seeing a partner far away can be feasible and fun. But if you're already on a budget, hurting for vacation days or hate traveling, flying off to see a partner can become miserable—well before you reach elite traveler status.
Why do some women flirt with everyone—even men they don't like? Our writer explains: "It all started when I was an awkward, mercilessly ugly 12-year-old. And then I discovered what would drastically alter the direction of my life: a stack of Playboys in my step-grandfather's closet. I could master the art of the smoldering stare. I could pout my lips and trail my finger across my chest. I could do this! That day, a flirt was born."
My romantic relationships have all followed this same pattern: I am "not enough" for the other person's love. Sometimes I blindly pursue men who blatantly tell me I am not enough. One boyfriend told me I would be really hot if I was five inches taller, ten pounds lighter, had broader shoulders (what?) and was Irish. Still, I stayed with him for 18 months. By unconsciously seeking out unattainable/emotionally unavailable/married or simply not interested men, I can obsessively reenact my father/daughter dynamic in the vain hope that if I can convince said man to love and notice me, then surely my father will notice and love me too.
Last week, we clued you in to 10 dating deal breakers that really aren't—and could be keeping you from the One. Some of you agreed. An awful lot of you thought we were raving lunatic nut jobs. But bear with us. We're only looking out for your best interests—which is why we wanted to bring you 10 more dating deal breakers that, under most circumstances, shouldn't really be considered deal breakers. Because beneath that nervous tic or that crustache or that really ugly shirt is the man of your dreams. You just have to look past superficial details and find out who he really is.
There's been a lot of of talk lately about settling for Mr. Good Enough, due to Lori Gottlieb's newest book, Marry Him. Despite the book's provocative title, however, Gottlieb's latest opus isn't really about settling. Rather, it's a case for maintaining an open mind when considering new men, instead of nitpicking over inconsequential surface details. She has a point. Looking at our track record, it's obvious that the checklist we've used on prospective men hasn't really netted us the best results. Which is why we had a powwow to put together a list of the 10 deal breakers that ... well ... shouldn't really be considered deal breakers.
Where do you go to meet decent guys? The answer, of course, is not bars. Going to bars works for drunken hook-ups (and, hey, sometimes that might be what the Dr. ordered), but for something more promising, you need to be sober and talking to someone who isn't just out for a wasted romp. Here are five tried-and-true places to meet guys more likely to be good relationship material.
Face it: Being single isn't always empowering and fun. Sure, you get all that "me time" to read a new novel, focus on work, apply a deep-cleansing mask when no one is looking or reconnect with girlfriends over cocktails. Still, being single can make you feel frustrated, angry, not worthy of love and even hopeless. That bad attitude could also be the reason you're single.
Whether or not you're in a relationship, YourTango's got you covered this Valentine's Day. Wondering how to inject more romance into your relationship? Or what true romance actually is? Or what that gift he bought you says about your relationship? There's no better time to find out.
Love or hate it, Valentine's Day puts the pressure on all of us to step up our game and romance the heck out of our loved ones. Some people go the chocolates and flowers route. Others plan elaborate and sensuous meals. Still others look to the big day as an excuse to escape on a romantic getaway. But try living up to these couples: Some of them got engaged on Valentine's Day, and still others had their actual weddings on February 14. So was it the lovey-dovey, fairytale event they'd always dreamed of? And how do they top such a thing years later? We asked couples who took VDay to the next level about their experiences.
I've said this a thousand times: Romance is actually the number one issue in relationships where women feel dissatisfied. Sure, that's a sweeping generalization, but I'm pretty sure if you give me fifteen minutes alone with any woman, I could get her all riled up about romance. "What? He never makes you breakfast in bed? What? It was a decade ago since you've gotten flowers? What? He can spend twenty minutes rubbing the dog's belly, but never yours?" As a woman, I want more romance. It happens in movies. Why can't it happen in real life?
The problem with a list, I realized, is that it’s hard to translate the bullet points into a real, live human being. The fact is, you can’t make a list that doesn’t either oversimplify or take things out of context. For instance, even if you make a list of qualities you want, they aren’t all weighted equally (is height as important as honesty?), and with many qualities you want, it’s not like people have them or they don’t. Often, they have some degree of that quality—like sense of humor or financial stability—which may not be exactly what you had in mind when you wrote it down. Lori Gottlieb tells us why dating Mr. Good Enough might be a better idea than dating Mr. Right.
Over Christmas this year, I made a middle school dream come true. No, I didn't finally find that new 15-speed bicycle or belatedly get accepted into all-state band. It was so much better and something to enjoy at any age: I hooked up with my friend's older brother.