There's no holiday more American than the Fourth of July, a day that casts men in their most traditional role: the take-charge, fire-mastering, crowd-pleasing leader. Is there anything more American than a man with a mission? Indeed the dynamics of Independence Day can shed a lot of light on your relationship and explain just what it is that makes your American man so... American.
There are people in the world who don't care about love. They don't even know what love is. But they do care about power, control and sex. Unfortunately, I learned about sociopaths the hard way—by marrying one. If your new romantic interest exhibits the following behaviors, be careful. One or two traits don't mean much, but if you see most or all of them, he or she might be a sociopath.
The wedding movie genre contains multitudes. Unfortunately, many of those multitudes are awful and make you never want to see another puffy white dress or botched set of vows. Luckily, this month's lady friendship comedy Bridesmaids is a shining example of the wedding genre done right. Here are 10 more wedding movies that are worth sitting through the Chicken Dance for.
It's the sight of a police officer with a glistening badge on his chest and handcuffs dangling from his hip. Firemen wearing heavy black bunker gear in big red trucks, their adrenaline like water rushing out of the hoses they carry, ready to save people from a blaze. Even recent footage of Navy Seal Team 6 propelling from helicopters in Pakistan has an effect. Like many women with a penchant for men in uniform, I stop and stare.
Calling all fans of The Graduate! If you're a cute little cat who has always dreamt of frolicking with an older, more seasoned kitty, prance on over to CougarLife.com. The site aims to connect the dots for "cubs" and "cougars" looking for a May/December romance. The site now has over 1.4 million members, and membership is evenly split between cougars and cubs.
Have you ever used an online dating site? If so you probably have opinions about what worked and what didn't. We're trying to figure what our readers want from an online dating site, so we want to hear from you! Take our survey and help us figure out how to build a better online dating site.
Single women often ask us how to meet men, so when we started up a partnership with YourTango Expert Rori Raye, author of the blog and newsletter Have The Relationship You Want, we figured that places to meet men was a good topic to start with. Rori had some great ideas, but she also thought that was the wrong question. "It's not about where you go, it's about your mindset when you're there," she said. Rori recommends practicing "Circular Dating." Circular Dating takes the focus off meeting the man and turns it back on yourself, which builds your self-esteem and leads to meeting men. Here are ten things we learned from Rori.
Hidden beliefs shape the most important parts of our lives, without us being aware that they are doing so. Beliefs based on fear, abuse, past disappointments and loss can put up a complete roadblock on your journey to love. Read more about these deadly dating patterns in this adaptation from Dr. Diana Kirschner's book "Sealing The Deal."
They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover. But is it a good idea to choose a date by the books he or she reads? Apparently, someone thinks so. The new dating site—Alikewise.com—launched in July and pairs people according to their taste in books. Sure, it sounds good on paper, but I'm not convinced.
Ask most girls under age 10 what "happily ever after" looks like and they'll talk to you about meeting a man (probably a prince) and kissing him at the royal wedding. Ask a grown woman what "happily ever after" looks like and she'll probably tell you the same thing. If you respond, "No, what does it look like to you NOW, as a grown woman," she'll stare at you blankly. I know this is true because it happened to me repeatedly while I interviewed women around the country for my book and documentary, Seeking Happily Ever After. No one ever told us that we could redefine happily-ever-after for ourselves—and that doing so might make us, well, happier. So here for you is permission to do it, and four ways to go about it.
I've been told by my married women friends that once you've been with someone for a while, it's helpful to walk down memory lane and recall why you initially fell in love. The bedazzled butterflies of new love inevitably give way to mortgage payments and mothers-in-law, and it's easy to get wrapped up in daily frustrations. So when you're feeling tired or annoyed or just need a little pick-me-up, a little romantic reminiscence might be just what the doctor ordered. With that in mind, here are five of our favorite married women and why they fell in love.
Interfaith dating: What happens when an atheist falls in love with a Christian? "For our second date, we opted for a movie followed by dinner. It was just after the entrees arrived that TD mentioned casually that he was a Christian and attended a church near my neighborhood in Brooklyn. I grew up thinking Christianity was something for "the other people"—red staters, conservatives, people who owned guns. If you did grow up in the Church, it was something you cast off as you became educated and matured. But here, sitting at the table across from me, was someone who was both of these things and still avowed his faith."
Last December, I made the eight thousand mile trip to the subcontinent to meet his family, hopeful as ever to impress my in-laws-to-be, only to be told that our Vedic horoscopes were not a good match for marriage. In other words: astrology ended my relationship.
I knew when I was 12 that I didn't want children. My mother tells me she distinctly remembers me storming into the house after babysitting the neighbors' kids and announcing angrily, "I'm never getting married and I'm never having kids."
I met Philip while out recruiting contestants for Blind Date. Once he told me he went to Vassar, I knew he'd never do the show. Instead, I kept him for myself. I looked extra cute and Philip seemed really into me. It was perfect. Well, almost. That morning, I had accidentally eaten some bad pineapple. Having never dealt with bad fruit toots, I didn't know what to expect from my Hawaiian friend. Looking at me you'd have never guessed the turmoil I was experiencing, but internally it was a dating disaster in the making.