I'm Jodie Rodenbaugh and this is my story. It's a story that only I direct. This is my story of feeling stripped of everything I once knew. My experience left me naked and vulnerable, but through that pain, I found strength from a power much greater than myself.
A friend of mine recently said to me that when we have feelings of guilt it is because there is an element of knowing that you did something right, or something that you had to do for yourself but for some reason you feel bad about. And, it got me thinking, I repeated it, “There is an element of good in the reasons we feel guilt.” In all of my articles about holding onto your power and all this emphasis and work I do around self empowerment, I hadn’t in writing, yet acknowledged the one thing that underlies the reason we lose so much of our power.
Among the many challenges facing small business owners is the lack of an external support structure. They are like young David’s facing down the giant. However, in business, the giant can be a larger competitor, a vendor, or a desired client. In any case, identifying and executing action can be daunting. As with David, there is no alternative to taking a calculated risk. The most important thing to keep in mind is that a business decision or action is not likely to be a life-threatening event. Many of actions business owners take can be corrected if necessary.
When our first-born child, Stella was only 2 hours old, I said to my husband, "You better have a darn good relationship with her for her entire life. You may be the only connection we have to her in her teen years." He just looked at me like I was crazy. In his defense, I probably was a little crazy. I had just gone through labor. That said, I clarified my statement to him the next day and still stand by statement today. This is how that conversation went:
How much do you value being seen and heard? Do you really want a truly successful relationship? How important is it to have impact on others? Then speak up! Of course, for some people, that’s easier said than done. You might prefer to sky dive without a parachute than tell another person what’s really on your mind. But it is possible to develop an assertiveness connected to head and heart that clears the way for honest, empowered living-without being rude to others.
My story today is a parable — though taken absolutely from true life. It's the story of how the people in charge of a famous, major American university allowed one of their football coaches to molest children for more than a decade, because the fame and prestige and money generated by the football program were more important to them than the children who were being molested.
My husband John woke me up this morning on his way out the door to work and said, "I'm sorry to start your day like this, but you know that movie theater we used to go to in Aurora, Colorado? Well, I think it is the same theater where twelve people died in a gun shooting last night."
There is always something on TV to scare us. Hysterical articles in the media sell papers and attract eyeballs to websites, but usually exaggerate facts. If you listen without evaluating what you're being told, it's easy to become frightened. There's a reason why I don't usually waste time and energy on panic and drama.
Few things give people as much trouble in their relationships as emotions. Not knowing what you feel, and how to express it can make people feel inadequate and confused. Understanding the nature and purpose of emotions, from a body-centered perspective, can assist you in both understanding your feelings, and give you a foundation to speak about them.
What is it that compels us to stay in relationships that aren't good for us? There are many reasons, but more often than not, it's a combination of several motivations. The first step towards making your situation better is in understanding why you're making the choices you're making to begin with.
We can't control the future. We can't control the outcome of most events in our lives. We can, however, control how we choose to respond to the fear-based "what-if" thoughts that descend on our minds like an avalanche and try to pull us away from this moment, right here, right now.
I am a control freak! Okay, there, I said it. To be honest with you, I stopped trying to be a perfectionist a long time ago, but I still have not been able to shake the need to control my environment. I am getting better. Really, I am. But the reality of it is that I still have a hard time letting things unfold naturally. I try to push things forward before they are ready to blossom all by themselves. Yes, this is one of my biggest flaws. And yet, one of my biggest assets.
I have to admit, given the popularity of last week's message on the power of habits, I am noticing a habit I have. I have the habit of celebrating Holidays, no matter what they are! Any excuse for a celebration works for me. Today's Holiday — St. Patrick's Day — much like most Holidays, is one that has evolved over the years, to say the least.
In my first article, I described a transformational approach to changing your life, which becomes immediately possible with a very simple and even fun process that I call “getting out of the box. To better understand what I mean by being in the box, here is a simple process: