FEAR IN RELATIONSHIP
I tip toe quietly into the deep space within this moment. It expands far beyond my consciousness. I am aware that I feel calm, joy woven with peace today. The excitement of my future is dancing around this present moment. It is like the vastness of this gulf of water I sit beside. I cannot see to the other side, yet I know the goodness of life lives fully over there reflecting my feelings right here and now.
Abuse comes in many shapes and sizes; the emotional, physical or the spiritual kind. Whatever it comes wrapped in will be just as impacting. When coaching women to let go of their ex relationships I see all sorts of behavior that their ex exhibits and in some cases it is “abusive”. However, the most abuse I see is actually the self-abuse that my ladies inflict on themselves, when they live in this sort of relationship.
It is dangerous and sometimes deadly to minimize abusive behavior. Abuse comes in many forms that don't involve physical violence and physical abuse comes in many forms that don't involve being hit. A rational, clear thinking person can see that, however, when you're being abused, you lose your ability to think clearly pretty quickly.
JEALOUSY SITUATIONS AND LESSONS NO. 5 Bill is very jealous of Efi and does not want her to ever leave the house without him. He is afraid that some man might approach her, and he cannot stand the idea of another man even looking at her. Although she has given him no concrete reason to fear, for some reason, he does not trust her. He feels intense fear, self-rejection and anger.
What are you afraid of if you say "No" to people? Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no: "I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. Then they will get angry at me and I will feel like a bad person." "I'm afraid of ending up with no friends. People will reject me if I say no."
We all appreciate a good love story. Let me tell you about Bill (not his real name). Bill came to see me a while back because he broke up with his girlfriend, I'll call her Susan, a few months earlier and was now struggling with anxiety. The anxiety became the most evident whenever he started to date a new person. He started to worry about being hurt, being rejected, making a mistake. It didn’t make sense to him.
Jessica was attending her first five-day Inner Bonding Intensive because she could not seem to commit to a relationship. She wanted to be married and have a family, and she had no trouble meeting men, but as soon as she started to really like someone, she would find any number of reasons to back out. In her late 30’s, her biological clock was ticking, but couldn't seem to break out of the pattern.
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Danielle B. Grossman, MFT. Why do we fight with our partners? I’m not referring to small arguments that resolve reasonably quickly with a compromise. I am talking about fights that blow like a hurricane into a peaceful day and leave us broken, exhausted, and confused as we wonder, what just happened?