Aaron was tall, handsome, brilliant, funny—everything I wanted in a lover except reckless. Indeed, the kinkiest thing about him was his luxuriant Jewish boy's 'fro; I loved to run my fingers through his curls. He was raised to be a suburban gentleman in the conservative 1950's and went to college in the liberated 70's—which may explain why he wasn't bitch-slapping me while pretending he was a pimp and I was his hooker, or playing the principal punishing the naughty schoolgirl sent to his office, or acting like a kidnapper tying up his naked, quivering victim. Instead, he put his ardor into his work while making sweet, calm, comfortable love to his wife once every week or two. Or three. Okay, a few years into our marriage, we sometimes went an entire month without even a quickie.
ations, Japan, you've just won the prize for the country with the greatest pornography titles! And believe it or not, the films mentioned are two hits in an unexpected market that's just burst onto the country: elderly porn. Yup, you heard us right...senior citizen pornography. But some themes of the vids that Time magazine reports the Japanese AARP is gettin' it on to might surprise you: incest and inter-familial sex. For example, some flicks by the company Glory Quest depict sexual relationships between an older father-in-law and his son's wife. The older generations don't relate to "school dramas," a p.r. flack tells the mag.
You can touch a stripper in Toronto. You can fondle her thighs, squeeze her boobs, kiss the nape of her neck as she arches her back in pretend ecstasy. Unlike the American clubs where you'll get beaten by a bouncer and tossed in the alley if you lay a finger on her, you can do almost anything you want in Toronto. Why do men want lap dances? In my case, I was curious. I was out of town in a city with lax rules and willing to try something I’d never done before...
Pepper Schwartz, a seasoned lover, psychologist and author, writes about the things she wish she knew about sex at 30. How much do body image, fantasy, oral sex and sex toys factor into a healthy sex life? Read on to find out. Plus, the revealing connection between foreplay, orgasms and faking it.
No longer a suburban secret, sex parties just might be the next vibrator, a sexual thrill once kept hidden and now gleefully embraced by women from all walks of life. And like vibrators, sex parties come in more flavors than Ben and Jerry's. From classic swinger events to nightclubs that provide beds, to pansexual celebrations of the erotic divine, people are coming together all over the country to flirt, fondle and f**k—however their hearts (or other body parts) desire.
Because women prefer to watch adult films with their partners, rather than alone, the movies directed toward women are referred to as "couples' porn." And in order to lure the female half of the equation, they must have a plot more complex than the pizza guy ringing a doorbell and bending a silicone-breasted blonde over some diseased plaid couch.With plots, romantic settings, and plenty of foreplay, “couples’ porn” is about female pleasure, too. A guide to the best erotic films, and how to watch them.
For the best advice on sex, love, dating and relationships we ask two experts with personal experience. Cathi Hanauer is the author, most recently, of Sweet Ruin, a novel about love, marriage, and adultery. Daniel Jones is the editor of both the "Modern Love" column for The New York Times, and Modern Love, an anthology derived from the column. They've been married for 15 years, and together they provide a his and hers take on relationship questions. This round: same-sex hook-ups. Question: I just got engaged to my boyfriend of two years, and I feel regretful that I never had a sexual experience with a woman—even though I'm pretty sure I'm straight. Is it too late for me to explore this fantasy? –Vanessa, 29
Some couples play dress-up even when it’s not Halloween; imagining different people and scenarios while making love can invigorate your sex life—or it can make you feel a little creepy. How do you get the best from your fantasies? Here’s a guide to navigating your sexual imaginations. "From picturing the hottie in Accounts Payable naked, to role-playing, to thinking about other people or circumstances while masturbating or having sex, people often use fantasies to augment their lovemaking. In fact, there are women who can achieve orgasm merely by conjuring that philanthropist/mailman/pool boy/plumber in their heads. (Seriously. And they're being studied.) Even if you're not blessed with that ability, research has shown that women's orgasms are in some ways more tied to mental gymnastics than to anything that's happening in the physical world. 'In women, the vast majority of sex is going on in their minds,' explains Dr. Anita H. Clayton, a professor in the Department of Psychiatric Medicine at the University of Virginia and author of an upcoming book about the relationship between sex and the psyche. 'So we can be easily distracted or shift into another set of feelings very quickly.'"