Trying to spice things up with your partner? Unsure about suggesting role play or fantasy? Well, as thrilling as fantasies can be, the potential for trouble also exists.
The best-selling 50 Shades of Grey trilogy brought mainstream attention to bondage, S&M, and other subversive sex acts. But a new erotic romance titled S.E.C.R.E.T. doesn't just portray fantasies — it teaches readers how and why they might want to explore their own.
According to one friend of Adam Lanza, he was excruciatingly shy as a teenager. If you have ever felt shy, embarrassed or humiliated in public, or the victim of cruel teasing or ostracism in your peer group, you know the feeling. Multiply that memory of the pain of shame by a power of 10 or 20 and make it last for years and we might be able to understand a craving for revenge that could overwhelm reason.
PART TWO Tell me how you were loved, and I’ll tell you how you make love. Our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprint and is expressed in the physicality of sex. Accordingly, there is a strong connection between our attachment map (defined as our expectations, conflicts, hopes and disillusionment with intimate connections) and our sexual feelings and behaviors: Tell me how you were loved, and I’ll tell you how you make love.
How we understand fantasy. Many people approach the inner workings of their erotic mind with great trepidation, believing that the content of their fantasy life is inappropriate in the context of a loving relationship. Our cultural taboos about erotic fantasy are so strong that the very idea of discussing sexual fantasy leads some of us to anxiety and shame. Fantasy, however, can be an ingenious way for the creative mind to overcome relational and intrapsychic conflicts around desire and intimacy. Fantasy can be a tool to heal.
When you first start dating someone, it is easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of excitement and anticipation. You feel an attraction, like the way this person makes you feel, and believe he or she has the qualities that you are looking for. After a few dates, you might even conclude that there is a future here for you and the answer to your relationship woes. And even though you have only known this person for two or three weeks, you feel like you’ve known this person forever.
The "Fifty Shades" books continue to generate buzz. As an expert in dominance and submission, as well as a general sexual enthusiast, I have a few ideas about how the "Fifty Shades" books became so popular and why they won't be losing their steam anytime soon.
Mr. Sexy Voice has been a regular phone sex caller. I never really knew what he looked like, but in MY fantasy, he was a hot, sexy, Italian-looking man with dark wavy hair, slightly muscular body, beautiful teeth, and a large unshaven cock. After a few years of chatting on the phone and sharing his most intimate secrets, Mr. Sexy Voice decided it was high time he send me a “hot” picture of himself. It’s always a dilemma for me, really.
by Julie Robinson Have you ever sought advice for your love life? Maybe you read self-help dating books or write to “experts” asking for advice. Like most of us, you probably consult your friends. Not too long ago, I wrote an article for Dating Sauce where I shared a story and asked for help on a topic close to my heart—I wanted to learn how to get a Golden Pussy.
If you're worried about what your significant other is fantasizing about, you can stop right now. A new study, conducted at Spain's University of Granada, says men and women in relationships have pretty similar sexual fantasies, in that both genders fantasize about their loved one. Researchers surveyed a group of Spanish citizens who had been in relationships for six months or longer.
I couldn’t stop thinking about that call where the wife walked in and caught her husband. I guess I’ll never really forget about it since I am writing about it today. Everyone has their own opinion about what is right and what is wrong. I have always taken the stance that phone sex was a good thing. Of course I would, because it’s my business, a way of life for me, and also a way of life for a few hundred others whom I employ.
Sharing your fantasies with your partner is an important first step to bringing them to life. If you don't talk about what you want, how are you ever going to get it? There are a variety of ways to have this conversation but the main goal is to get these sexy thoughts out of your head and into real life!
With the world-wide phenomenon that the ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy has become it’s impossible to escape the media coverage, the ecstatic fan base and the conversation it’s all stirred up. The most important aspect of these books is the permission they give to read, enjoy and even live out kinky fantasies.
Until I had this business, I thought that people (men) worked all day long, and had very little time to do much else. Prior to the internet really going wild, I also thought phone sex was just a quick, natural, little self pleasure that a few indulged in once in a while. A simple naughty magazine would inspire many to call and disclose private intimate thoughts and actions. The cost was nominal and the time used was very little. As a phone actress not much mattered, all was done discreetly over the phone.
If you have not heard about the popularity of the novel series, Fifty Shades of Grey, by E. L. James, than you are likely living under a rock. This romance novel's overnight smash popularity is an indication of several things. Number one, women enjoy sex. Number two, women do like erotica. And, number three, women enjoy their erotic adventures wrapped in a handsome fantasy and safely packaged in a monogamous relationship.
Question: I discovered my partner looks at a lot of porn (mostly barely-legal age individual women sites) on a regular basis. I have no problem with viewing porn, but the individual young girls reality was upsetting (I’m mid 40's but look/act 30's). He explained that he uses these sites for masturbation and that it means nothing negative towards me or our relationship. Is this typical male behavior?
I was sitting in the nail salon the other day having my bi-weekly pedicure and manicure, when a couple of “upper class” women waltzed in. We all exchanged smiles and hellos. I’ve seen the one woman a few times, so we have the ability to chat a little to break up the silence. This day however, I wasn’t so talkative; I was a voyeur, listener. The big discussion was the newest novel, “50 Shades of Grey”.