FANTASY

Sharing your fantasies with your partner is an important first step to bringing them to life. If you don't talk about what you want, how are you ever going to get it? There are a variety of ways to have this conversation but the main goal is to get these sexy thoughts out of your head and into real life!

With the world-wide phenomenon that the ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy has become it’s impossible to escape the media coverage, the ecstatic fan base and the conversation it’s all stirred up. The most important aspect of these books is the permission they give to read, enjoy and even live out kinky fantasies.

Until I had this business, I thought that people (men) worked all day long, and had very little time to do much else. Prior to the internet really going wild, I also thought phone sex was just a quick, natural, little self pleasure that a few indulged in once in a while. A simple naughty magazine would inspire many to call and disclose private intimate thoughts and actions. The cost was nominal and the time used was very little. As a phone actress not much mattered, all was done discreetly over the phone.

If you have not heard about the popularity of the novel series, Fifty Shades of Grey, by E. L. James, than you are likely living under a rock. This romance novel's overnight smash popularity is an indication of several things. Number one, women enjoy sex. Number two, women do like erotica. And, number three, women enjoy their erotic adventures wrapped in a handsome fantasy and safely packaged in a monogamous relationship.

Question: I discovered my partner looks at a lot of porn (mostly barely-legal age individual women sites) on a regular basis. I have no problem with viewing porn, but the individual young girls reality was upsetting (I’m mid 40's but look/act 30's). He explained that he uses these sites for masturbation and that it means nothing negative towards me or our relationship. Is this typical male behavior?

I was sitting in the nail salon the other day having my bi-weekly pedicure and manicure, when a couple of “upper class” women waltzed in. We all exchanged smiles and hellos. I’ve seen the one woman a few times, so we have the ability to chat a little to break up the silence. This day however, I wasn’t so talkative; I was a voyeur, listener. The big discussion was the newest novel, “50 Shades of Grey”.

You see, I am not a believer that people do the best they can but rather I believe that people just do what they do. (And, in many cases, whatever they can get away with.) So, unless you are a bona fide junkie, addicted to the rush of break-up and make-up, wake up and smell the four truths about cheating.

If "Fifty Shades of Grey" teaches us anything (other than that redundancy-filled fan fiction can get you on a best-seller list, so long as it's erotic), it's that men really love power.

I answered my ringing phone, and heard: “I’m here, Kelly. I’m here in the room, in a sex swing - naked – and I am so horny. I really, need to be fucked, used, and treated like a bitch.” By his voice, and his words, I knew immediately it was a regular caller named Michael, the “I’m NOT gay” guy, who goes at least once a week on the hunt to meet other men in bath houses, book stores, or orgies put together in hotel rooms advertised online.

If you think dreams are unattainable fantasies or something you only do in your sleep, think again. Not only do dreams occur when you're awake, but you have the power to make them real. Here's how.

The book "Fifty Shades Of Grey" is rocketing up the fiction best-seller charts as well as the underwears of America's women. Because of its content, the book has inspired many essays about BDSM, sexual power and contemporary, American ladies.

I am pretty sure that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes we really like being tied up despite having a pleasant, if unremarkable upbringing and having great respect for our friends, lovers and neighbors. Mommy and daddy issues are frequently convenient excuses for "embarrassing" desires we've been taught to believe are "sinful."

The popularity of "Fifty Shades Of Grey" has opened up a number of issues regarding BDSM, feminism and sexual power dynamics. More than the book's reach, the conversations have begun about exactly how many people are into this kind of sex and why they enjoy it. We're a strange animal.

Over the years, people have been very curious about the various fantasies and role plays that come up through the phone sex calls we receive. People always ask, “What’s the craziest thing you have ever heard?” I saved a real email request from a client about his fantasy, and I’ll let you read some of it, as it will give you some insight as to how unique people’s fantasies really are:

Flipping through YourTango on this fine Friday morning, I came upon a great article from a fellow YT expert about 7 things you can learn from strippers. It was written from a guy's point of view, and it absolutely paralleled my own personal experience as a stripper. Some of the YT readers didn't really appreciate the article's point of view, but I'd like to defend it.

by Julie Robinson    They may not be the words every girl wishes to hear in her lifetime, but “I want you to be my bad girl” rings like bells in my ears the morning Devin texts that delightful little proposal to me.  Being exclusively bad with a man has been my secret little fantasy.  If I was going to give it all to my man why would I want to behave?