Overbearing and unloving parents haunted you as a child, and their ghost still lingers with you as an adult. Breaking free from parents who cause frustration and turmoil in your adult life is key to being the independent person you are destined to be.
On the last night of our epic three week family vacation we all lay on our backs on a dock on Cascade Lake, Orcas Island to watch a rare meteor shower. I wish I had a picture of us – side by side in the dark - gazing across an expanse of sky trying to capture every stray streak to launch itself in our direction. Then a chorus of a gasps would ring out. OOOhhhh, aaawwweee …
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that ALL of their ideas are good ones. In fact, many are silly, impossible or end up setting a bad precedent. Donuts and chocolate cake for breakfast? Drawing with permanent markers while sitting on your new couch? Of course not. However, many of the things they complain about when it comes to their parents are right on the money.
Adults love to give kids warnings when a rule is broken and would love to believe warnings are a highly compassionate method of parenting, a reflection of our loving and kind humanity. But guess what? Warnings may be the farthest thing from true compassion. Though almost always well-intentioned, warnings will routinely backfire. Here are the main reasons why:
Last year my oldest child left for college, which happened about 24 hours after he was born. Or at least that’s how it felt to me. I can look back and think of a few things that I regret as his mom; nothing too serious, just a thing or two that I might change. I do, however, have a list of things that I refuse to regret even if some might consider me a bad mom. I plan on holding on to these same non-regrets (and maybe a few more) with my other two children. Here they are:
Happy Holidays! I can’t believe another year is drawing to a close. It is an interesting time of year for me in particular, because my birthday and the holiday season hit all at once, and I find myself spending a lot of time in introspection during the month of December. So, in today’s post I wanted to share a realization that I had and a method to help you feel the love from your family during the holidays, especially when so many of us are dreading being around our family for more than several hours.
Failed time-outs can be a huge source of frustration for parents and teachers, making them question their skills and abilities, and leading to the belief that they need to escalate severity to get consequences to work. This can easily result in stronger and stronger reprimands, lectures, and even yelling, along with more and more drastic and punitive consequences. This is typically a recipe for disaster. There is a much better way. Really understanding why time-outs don’t work is the place to begin.
Have you heard kids say, "When I grow up, I want to marry Mom (or Dad)?" Our response is centered on the innocence and sweetness of the moment, however it should also be a wake up announcement to the truth of those words. Children will mirror their parental relationship role model when they become adults and it is a couple's responsibility to show the right way of relating in love.
Suppose your child has left Legos all over the living room again! Can you picture the chaos? Can you feel yourself become frustrated immediately? Are your shoulders instantly stiffening just thinking about the scene and the consequences? And this was just pretend. What happens when you are right in the midst of inappropriate behavior? Ponder What Discipline Really Means
There is a quiet despair among so many loving, smart, and deeply caring parents. They so desire to see their children manifest their greatness, to use their intensity well instead of having it go awry, and too often they see their best efforts to inspire respectful and responsible choices slip away to further levels of frustration.
What are you most thankful for this holiday season? Is it your relationship with your family, spouse or other significant persons? If so, have you told them how much you appreciate their support and the compassion they share? But most importantly, how have you expressed your “gratitude?” Was it in the form of words, gifts or services that reflect you heartfelt thanks?
Our world has become connected in ways that a couple of decades ago could only have barely been imagined. Often this is taken primarily as a matter of technology, a matter of ease of getting information, a matter of the speed of effects being felt in distant places. Hurricane Sandy and its impact in the Northeast along with all the calls that were made beyond the storm show that our connected world has also created new patterns
advice for working moms Family. Career. Personal Fulfillment. For moms who work outside of the home, it can be tough to find balance. GalTime caught up with Rachel Blaufeld, a successful Mompreneur and founder of the popular blog Back'nGroove Mom to get her take on motherhood, work and how to stay relevant in your career while you're raising your kids. GalTime: Tell us about Back'nGroove Mom...
By Relationship Coach, Nancy Pina, for GalTime.com parenting the way you want Have you heard parents say in amazement, “I sound just like my Mom (or Dad)”! The words that made them want to flee the room as a child seem to flow right out of their own mouths as parents. Instinctively, kids can pinpoint hot spots and become the sandpaper to old hurts.
Traveling with your teen doesn't have to be a bust because with a little preparation, traveling together can be something the entire family can look forward to. Before you plan and pack up though, you'll want to be sure to avoid any triggers that can turn a potentially terrific vacation into a terrible one.