"Happily ever afters" tend to happen in movies... but not always real life. We can't be too hard on ourselves because we've been fed a steady stream of cinematic exaggerations. Here, one expert's favorite love-to-hate 'em romantic films.
My husband, Rory, and I recently had a conversation about common mistakes women tend to make when it comes to love. He has seen women he’s dated and been in relationships with, and his female friends making these six mistakes. Rory is very insightful and I feel compelled to share them with you since I’ve made many of these mistakes. If you can relate to any of these, try these solutions and watch your love life improve. Mistake #1: Being needy.
Every girl dreams of meeting her Prince Charming. After all, what's more romantic than a knight in shining armor sweeping you off your feet and whisking you away to your very own castle? But fairy tales have a fatal flaw: the princesses must always wait for their Prince Charmings to arrive. Take Sleeping Beauty, for example. She had to wait a hundred years just to get a kiss from her one true love. In real life, who has that kind of time?
Naive Love Finding true love is the central theme of life’s story. From the time we’re young we long for love, hoping one day it will magically appear and find us. We learn this from fairy tales where the prince and princess live “happily ever after”. Our youthful expectations of love are based on one-dimensional characters in made-up stories and carried into adulthood from reading Harlequin Romance novels.
As yet another celebrity marriage bites the dust, one wonders if these two actually talked about the realities of the future more than the endorsements for the wedding ceremony. To give them the benefit of the doubt that at least one or two conversations were had before the trip down the aisle, what kept them from seeing the obvious red flags?
There are over 100 million single adults over the age of 25 in our country, and for most of them, the thought of being single and dating is analogous to having a red hot poker jammed into their eye. Based on my research, most single women dislike dating and being single. When it comes to finding that special guy to share their life with, many of these women say that there is hope in their heart, but they honestly admit that they are not too optimistic that true love is in their future.
In a twist on the classic fairy tale, there’s a phenomenon that happens with shocking regularity. The princess, having spent a long time in a relationship with a frog whom she kept hoping would turn out to be her prince, finally meets the Real McCoy. Prince Charming comes along and begins to woo her. Trouble is, she’s still married to the frog. What’s a princess to do?
Congratulations, soon-to-be-Princess Kate. You are in the midst of an epic fairy tale romance with your Prince. There are just a few things that I think you should know, in order to ensure that you actually do live happily ever after. Know that you make your own “happily ever after.” It doesn’t just happen; it takes a lot of work, courage, honesty and communication. Sometimes it’s not easy, but it’s worth the price of creating your own future.
Most romantic relationships are built on the myth of a fairy tale. We don’t stop listening to fairy tales as we get older. Instead, they morph from children’s stories into popular romantic and romantic comedy movies and books. One of the most prevalent myths in modern media is “You complete me.”
In fairy tales, sometimes the princess kisses a frog, or otherwise falls in love with a beast, and by doing so reveals his true nature as her prince. There are two facets to this particular myth. The first facet is that you can change someone, which is almost always untrue and sets the princess up for disappointment. You can’t change another person; you can only change yourself.