20 Rules For Your First Online Date

20 Rules For Your First Online Date [EXPERT]
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... featuring tips from YourTango Experts Jenn Burton & Dina Colada!

13. Don't be a mannequin in a pretty red dress. Don't pretend to be someone who you think he will like. When he talks, don't sit there like a dummy. Respond to him like you would anyone else, but with a little more inviting body language. Participate in the conversation, but don't forget to listen. —Dina Colada

14. Communicate, don't educate. Don't need to ambush the guy with facts to show him how smart you are. He doesn't want to hear about the detailed science behind your favorite running shoes, or get a play-by-play of your grandmother's hip surgery. Keep it fun and flirty on your first date. —Dina Colada

15. Leave the soap operas at home on your DVR. Talking about the bad break-up you had with your ex-fiance of ten years is not good conversation to bring up on the first date. Nor is your obsession with the genius of FOX News or Democracy Now. Unless you are running for state senate, or are the head of a political campaign, leave this topic for later. —Dina Colada

16. Abstain from listening to your brain. Connecting with him over drinks on this glorious first date then over-analyzing it in ladies room will get you nowhere fast. When you tune in to your heart, instead of your mind, you will be your true self and the conversations will flow. You will be connecting with his essence, not his brain. Besides, do you know anyone besides Steve Martin who has been in love with a brain? —Dina Colada

17. Be a goddess. Being a goddess simple. Be your awesome feminine self. Be present and receptive. Laugh and pay attention to your feelings. When you are walking toward the door, slow down and let him open it for you. You will feel like a goddess and it will make him feel like a real man. —Dina Colada

18. When he pays for dinner, pay attention. When the guy chooses a great restaurant, let him know you love it. When he holds your arm while your walking, check in with yourself. If what he is doing feels good, tell him. Men love to hear what they are doing right. In my studies of 1000's of online profiles, almost every single man chose appreciation over trust in a poll, so give it to him. —Dina Colada

19. Trust yourself. Trusting yourself is key to getting that second date if there is to be one. Listen to your intuition. —Dina Colada

20. Be sensual, not sexual. When a woman is sensual instead of sexual, especially early on, it leaves so much for the man to dream about, and it makes your evening much more interesting. You can be sensual by not revealing every inch of your skin or your past. Being totally present and using all of your senses, makes you more sensual. Smell his cologne as you walk to the table. Feel the warm red wine in your hands. See his eyes when he gazes at yours. Taste every delicious bite of your meal. Listen to his deep voice and feel it resonate in your body and trust what it tells you ... and get ready to have some fun on that second date! —Dina Colada

Come back tomorrow for Online Dating Bootcamp: Day 8, "When Should I 'Friend' The Guy I Met Online?" featuring a video by YourTango Expert Annie Gleason.

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