Emotional Infidelity: 18 Signs You're Crossing The Line

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Emotional Infidelity: 18 Signs You're Crossing The Line [EXPERT]
Has your flirtation gotten out of hand?

6. You laugh more with him. You "always" have more fun with him than with your partner. You like being with him. In fact, you prefer it. —Charlotte Michie

7. You think about him all the time. Your daydreams include this person almost to the exclusion of your partner. You muse about what would it be like to be with him all the time. —Charlotte Michie

8. You compare him to your partner. Comparing is a judgment, and judgments leave us feeling either really good or really bad. You think of him and you really feel good, and then you think of your partner and you feel bad in some way. —Charlotte Michie

9. You anticipate your next encounter. You are checking your email, phone or Facebook hoping he has contacted you. You feel excited and you are hoping he has contacted you. —Charlotte Michie

10. You feel understood by him, unlike by your partner. A really big red flag is when your thoughts wander towards "he really gets me. He knows exactly how I feel." Then you think of your partner and how he doesn't get you and he's a loser when it comes to your feelings. —Charlotte Michie

11. You tell others, "we are just friends." A big sign that you are more than friends is when others bring it to your attention what they are seeing. Don't ignore what others are saying. If you are defending your relationship with him with your friends, that's an issue to look at. —Charlotte Michie

12. You feel uncomfortable when your partner says something about him. Many times these relationships are made at work and your partner does know about the "other" because of project work together. Pay attention if you feel uncomfortable when your partner (or spouse) comments about your work partner. It's important to explore your own conscience and be truthful to yourself about the relationship. —Charlotte Michie

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