How To Uncover And Share Your True Desires


How To Uncover And Share Your True Desires
Honor your relationship by getting in touch with your raw, true desires.

This desire-sharing exercise will only take 10 minutes tops. Have a clock or timer with you to keep time. Sit across from each other comfortably. One person will say "I want your desire" and the other person will speak whatever his/her desire is. Then the person closes the cycle by saying "Thank you. I want your desire." Keep repeating this cycle for 4 minutes. After the 4 minutes is over, switch directions and do the same thing.

This game may seem silly and pointless, but take a chance and trust me. Give it a shot and really drop in to the exercise. Feel your body as you speak your desire and as you hear your partner's desires. Turn down any judging voices that are inside of you and be present in this moment. The desires can be about anything from wanting more money to being tied up in bed. Don't censor yourself or your feelings. Say the taboo desires that you've kept hidden. Go deep into your desire and let yourself be seen. After you each have shared, review your experience with each other in terms of what you felt in your body, what did you learn about your partner and yourself. Be curious about each other without judging.


Quick Example:

You: I want your desire.
Partner: I want to take a trip to Europe.
Thank you. I want your desire.
I want to have a hot makeout with you and your friend.
You: Thank you. I want your desire.

3. Step into the "unthinkable" and identify your raw desire
There are desires that we think we "should" have (a well-paying job, husband/wife, family) and there are desires that are raw and don't follow the norms (multiple partners, ice cream before bed, short skirts at work). Raw desires come from the body, whereas societal desires are constructed from the head based on what's "right." Decoding Female Desire: What Makes Us Tick?

For the rest of this challenge, do one thing everyday that comes from your raw desire. Tap into your body and listen to what it wants and do it in the moment. Throw all caution to the wind and let desire lead you.

Bonus challenge: For the rest of the challenge, live every moment of your life from your true desires.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Make time to complete this exercise. Print this page and take the luxurious opportunity to really dive into your desires.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Make time for your desire date. Schedule with your partner and follow through.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Challenge yourself to stick with this process. Do something that scares you, challenges you or gives you butterflies in your stomach. Be true to yourself and honor the part of you that "knows" you can have more of what you desire in life.

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