Wouldn't great sex more often take some of the edge off your stress? 6 Simple Tips to help you do it
The hustle and bustle of the holiday season just seems to stack more stress onto a woman's already too busy mind. Deciding the right gifts for everyone, planning the feasts, maybe struggling with the finances or dreading family personalities at the upcoming gatherings - whatever your concerns, wouldn't some great sex more often take the edge off a bit?
Of course it would! So why aren't you doing it?
In most cases, a woman doesn't come to climax during sex because her mind is too busy to relax and enjoy the moment. Okay, ladies, how many of you will admit that when you and your partner get together your mind stays racing with home and work issues that swim around in your head on a regular basis? Your partner doesn't know what's going on and that it may take a bit (or a lot) more romance, tenderness and time to get you where you need to be for a satisfying orgasm(s). Yet, that orgasm is just what you need to set off the much-desired hormone in your brain, oxytocin, which takes the edge off your physical and mental stress for up to 3 days - not to mention it creates a response in us to be much nicer to others.
Now you're asking: What can I do about? You're thinking: I can't shut off my brain! Actually, you can shut down the clutter in your mind - you just have to learn how to do it, and then do it.
This holiday season, you can gift yourself by beginning to take back control of your mind, and your life. No longer do you need to let the lack of focus, the lack of sleep and the energy-drains of fear, doubt and worry rule your world. You can learn the practice of quieting your mind so that you can access clarity and face everything in your life in a more peaceful perspective giving you the ability to enjoy the things in life that are meant to be enjoyed.
Things in Life Meant to be Enjoyed:
Being 'Present' with Your Loved Ones
Time with Yourself/Self-Care
Living Your Life with Intention/Opposed to feeling overwhelmed, even victimized
The Awe of Nature
And SO much More
To set yourself up for enjoying life more fully, if you're not right now, is going to require you to dedicate some time and importance to it. You have to take this time for yourself. Not taking the time to acknowledge yourself as a top priority is just a habit you've gotten into that can be changed. If you will dedicate just 10 minutes each day for yourself to practice a quieting of your mind (60 would be optimal), you will begin to see the results of your overall stress decreasing more and more.
6 Simple Tips to Quiet the Clutter of Your Mind:
- Plan to be still for at least 10 minutes, then intentionally practice releasing the resistance throughout your body and in your mind for this time.
- Listen to Guided Meditations or do your own deep breathe/releasing meditations.
- Create your own Morning Ritual (Great, Great Idea!!)
- Take a walk outside or spend time just appreciating nature (alone).
- Take a nice, warm shower simply to enjoy the warmth and flow of the water - let it relax and heal you.
- At bedtime - utilize focused repeating/releasing to fall asleep calmer and faster. (Focus and repeat one word of peaceful calm to yourself as you allow yourself to release all tensions in your mind and body - just allow those tensions to flow right through and out of you.)
Gift yourself with this daily time and you'll begin to see positive changes throughout your life - and, yes, you will get your groove back.
If you could use more help learning practices to quiet and keep the clutter out of your mind as a way of life, check out my upcoming group coaching, exclusively for women: Quiet Mind ~ Coming Out of Mental Chaos. Put it on your "gift list." Tell your partner you'll have better sex, and become a nicer person to be around!
More Resources from Wendy Kay:
Enjoy the Day Quotes (Get my Favorite quotes with my personal thought-provoking commentary M-F each week - Free)
Mastering the Art of Feeling Good - The book that still offers many practical tools and strategies to feel good now and for a lifetime. Includes a guide to Quiet Mind Meditation and the Life Purpose Exercise.