- Ask Yourself: What do I really want? Am I really interested in letting my relationship go down the drain here? Why am I in it in the first place; what does my partner mean to me and my life - is it worth putting in the time and effort? If your answer is "yes," go on to number 2. If not, you have some decisions to make.
- Bend the ear of a girl friend, or a guy friend (depending on your gender and sexual orientation) - someone not likely to replace the emotional or sexual charge of your love relationship. Everyone needs someone to listen, care and add new perspective at times; you just want to pick someone who is safe, and acceptable, to the respect of your relationship. So find a friend or two that can help you process and work through your part of your issues without totally abandoning your partner.
Make more of an effort to communicate effectively with your partner. Men and women absolutely communicate differently, so there's just the first of many possible barriers. Check into 4 Steps To Help Couples Speak Their Very Own Language to identify the different barriers to effective communication with your partner and ideas on how to bridge those gaps. How effectively you communicate with your partner, makes all the difference in the quality of life you will share. It's worth the effort.
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Don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and "calm down." Remember: your partner is not the enemy.
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