6. Social pressure. Your teen is constantly inundated with social pressures. Don't you remember middle school and high school? You thought it was the be-all, end-all to life. Now you look back and realize what a "zoo" they were. Teens are being labeled, bullied, harassed, and are trying to hold up an image to fit in, stand out or even be invisible. Teens are under pressure to be what they're not, to survive. They are constantly concerned of what others think. They get lost.
7. Relationships. "Should I or shouldn't I? Am I old enough, good looking enough? Everyone is doing it! What do I think; what do my parents think? Should I get physical? What if I get pregnant? Am I pregnant? Is she pregnant? Will others talk good or bad about me? Will I get a reputation? I need a partner, it might make me feel better and at least I'll have an ally. I can't let my parents know. I hate my parents, they won't let me date yet!" This is a lot to think about for any teenager. 15 Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship
8. Responsibility and accountability. Teens are expected to do everything, and do it right now. House chores, get good grades, act appropriately, don't give in to temptation and social pressures, make the right decisions, know what they want to do for the rest of their lives, be respectful, act happy, be cooperative, show initiative, get a job ... and so on.
9. Teens don't know how to make themselves happy. In this transitional stage, there are so many people and systems telling them what to do and how to think. Often, teens don't know who to listen to and they forget how to listen to themselves.
10. Teenagers have a mind of their own now. This is when your child is becoming an adult. They've been forming their own thoughts and opinions. They have realized that you did not hang the moon and are imperfect. They feel that they are being lead by authorities that don't know what they are doing, and want to be left alone to make their own decisions and mistakes. Tennagers have individual desires and aspirations because they are their own person, just like you are. They don't understand why you just won't let them be who they are, and they get angry about it.
In light of all this, we realize that teens get angry and with good cause. Now the question is, how can we help? You surely have a lot coming into your awareness already, but if needed, check out Help Your Teen Deal With Life.
To get help in dealing with parenthood more intentionally yourself or would like to help your teen become more focused in living his/her life more intentionally aware within the teenage limitations, I would love to help. Feel free to contact me through my website's contact page.
Another offering to become more consciously aware in your own life and some tools to pass onto your teen, check out my book, Mastering the Art of Feeling Good.