Every year, in the beginning of September, men across the country start canceling plans on Mondays, Saturdays and Sundays. They gather in groups in basements and online, agonizing over their fantasy football draft picks. In lieu of real clothes, they opt to wear football jerseys at every opportunity, and spend their free time in front of the television, gripping reote controls.
They might look up occasionally to grab a snack or a beer, but their attention always goes right back to the game. They yell, jump around and stomp their feet. Are they excited? Angry? It's hard to tell. Sometimes, in all of their football season excitement, they forget about the women they love. Unless they want her to make lunch, in which case they will speak to her ... but, only during a commercial break.
Does this sound familiar to you? If it does, you are not alone.
All over the world there are women just like you who, come the fall season, resign themselves to the life of a "football widow." You don't even have to be married to have the title. It applies to any woman who must cope with the temporary death of her relationship during football season. But, don't worry. Here are the five best ways to cope if you have lost your relationship to football season:
1. Look on the bright side. You will never have to wonder where your man is or what your plans are on the weekends. When he doesn't call you back on Monday night, it's not because he's pulling away. It's because his favorite team is playing their division rivals.
If you are just beginning to date each other, you will be spared the anxiety that comes with hoping he is not going out with another woman on Saturday. He's actually been in his living room since seven o' clock in the morning and he's not moving from the couch.
2. Don't fight it. Doing things like hiding the remote, "accidentally" breaking the DVR or purposely scheduling plans for when you know his favorite team is playing will backfire. Not only will he be frustrated that he is missing out, but he will start to resent you.
If watching football is something he loves, you don't need to understand his obsession with the game. However, you do need to accept it. Why You Shouldn't Say 'I Love You' Too Soon
3. Keep yourself busy. If watching sports all day is your idea of a personal hell, call some fellow football widows and go out to lunch, go shopping or do whatever makes you feel good. Make plans with your mom, as it's likely she is a football widow too, and let the guys have the house to themselves.
Do things you enjoy. Being productive will prevent you from feeling left out of all the fun your man is having on game day.
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