The Practice Of Allowing


The Practice Of Allowing
I love summer.

As a child I spent my summers on the beach in Spain— a time of absolute freedom and connection to what I believe matters the most i.e. people, great food, nature, dance, deep connection with my body and the joy of being alive. Every summer it is as if my body remembers. As if my body goes to that place where it wants to be lying on a beach, having a simple life, drawing circles in the sand.  

Even though I don't now spend months on a beach (and would not necessarily want to) I do find myself recreating that feeling within whatever experiences I am having.  It is a time to taste food better, to connect with friends, to be outside, to feel my feet on the floor, on the sand, on the rocks or on the grass. A time to swim in oceans, lakes and pools.  A time of sensuality and pleasure where I feel exquisitely alive. 


As summer draws to a close I find my mind wanting to make fall bad. My mind wants me to complain and whine. At times I find myself resisting the beauty of fall, what fall has to offer. 

Yet, I know my heart loves fall. At this point in my life, fall is filled with all kinds of succulent experiences. The problem is my mind can get stuck in the past where maybe this was not true. When I breathe into the reality of my life now a different truth emerges.

My heart actually loves all the seasons as my heart knows that life is precious and cannot afford to be in discord with whatever is showing up in my life. My heart loves life and wants me to enjoy every precious moment whether it be playing in the sand, gathering fall leaves, shoveling snow or seeking eagerly those early signs of spring.  So this fall I am practicing allowing and being in a place of non resistance. 

I am asking my mind to let go of the notion that things have to be a certain way so that I can just be with what is. When resistance shows up I just notice it, breathe into it and let it go. Today and each day I choose to enjoy life.

This article was originally published at Vivianne Bentley. Reprinted with permission.

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