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Why That Special Guy Isn't Calling


You may be stopping him from picking up the phone...

We’ve all been there. A phone clutched tightly in hand, waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place.

You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to yourself just to make sure the mail program is working properly.

If your friend calls, you don’t pick up. Instead of welcoming her call, you’re annoyed by the interruption and it reminds you how it hurts that it’s not him.
Afraid he may forget you, you decide to text him first, just to casually check in and say, "hi." Your fingers hit the keys and type, but then you panic and stop yourself just in time.

As if all this isn’t enough to put yourself through, there are questions you keep asking in your head: "Does he like me?" "Did I do something wrong?" "Is he thinking of me?"

You hate yourself for feeling so needy, for being unable to focus on anything else. Who is this person so consumed just waiting for a phone call? We’ve all been that person and it’s not fun.

So what can you do to stop this craziness and get him to call you?

First of all, you have to stop pushing him away with your desperate energy. It doesn’t matter that he can’t see you; he will feel it because we’re all energetically connected.

This may sound a little "woo-woo" but I’ve experienced this truth time and time again. When you meet someone you like you become subconsciously "attached" to each other. This happens at a deeper level than your conscious thoughts and can’t be put into words. It’s something you feel as opposed to something you think. Keep Reading...

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