3 Mistakes You May Make When Looking For Love

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3 Mistakes You May Make When Looking For Love [EXPERT]
Are you frustrated looking for love?

2. You don't fix what's not working. Human beings tend to like the familiar. We have a comfort zone we find hard to leave unless we're really pushed. Life-changing experiences like illness or a car accident will propel you to make new and daring choices. But when life is just going along as usual, you can get lazy and avoid making the changes you need to be more successful with men. 6 Healthy Ways To Re-Activate Your Love Life

One example is the fear of "making waves" in a relationship. Instead of speaking up for yourself, which can be a real challenge, you'll go with the flow to keep the peace. Or if you're used to having your guard up around men, you don't risk being hurt by allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You just stick to being the way you've always been because it's easier than facing the fear of the change you need to make.

3. You haven't handled your subconscious sabotage. We all have subconscious sabotage; it keeps us eating too much, buying what we don't need and pushing good men away. Yet, it's something you can change once you become aware of it. The subconscious controls your habitual ways of being in relationships. For example, it will show up as a lack of self-worth or confidence, which makes it hard for you to set boundaries. Help! I Can't Stop Facebook Stalking My Boyfriend

You have to recognize what the habitual thoughts are that aren't working for you and change them. When a subconscious belief that is hurting you is made conscious (when you become aware of it) it will get "neutralized" and no longer "run you." There are many ways to get at your subconscious beliefs, but three excellent ones are hypnotherapy, coaching, and guided imagery.

Looking for love is a serious business. If you're really serious about looking for love, you have to take the bull by the horns and do these three things. They will require courage. You have to stop breaking your own rules, change the things you do that you know aren't working, and finally, find out how you've been subconsciously sabotaging your relationships. Are You A Victim Of Relationship Failure?

If you take your search for a good man seriously and do these 3 things — when you find him, you'll know exactly what to do to keep him.

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