Sometimes the best way to find love is to stop looking for love all together.
Searching for that special someone can deplete your time and energy. You probably spend countless hours going through self-help books, watching DVDs and reading blogs online, trying to absorb what the experts are telling you. All the advice and varying opinions about what you should or shouldn't do -- it can make your head spin!
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Besides all that, you may be working really hard doing your "relationship" homework: practicing meditation techniques, writing affirmations and creating a vision board. These are all helpful, but at some point they can begin to feel like drudgery and looking for love can feel overwhelming.
I've been there, I know. When I was single and looking for love I was thinking about it 24/7. I was consumed by my worry that it would never happen. You might even say I was obsessing about in it. It robbed my of my enjoyment in the present and I went through my days as though I had blinders on.
If you know what I'm talking about then I suggest youtake a deep breath. The best thing you can do right now is to stop looking for love, not for forever of course -- but you need a mental break.
I didn't realize how single-minded I had become until a good friend pointed it out to me. I was so consumed looking for love that I gave off an energy that was desperate and the people around me could feel it.
How to stop looking for love:
If you're at your wits end the perfect antidote is to do something that takes you out of yourself.
It's a great time to delve into "spiritual" teachings; the kind of materials that lift you up and remind you that you have reason to be here.
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Or find someone with bigger problems than you and help them. There's no better way to get out of yourself than to devote yourself to someone else's happiness. Helping another person will also build your self-esteem and we all could use more of that.
Give yourself permission to stop looking for love and take a mental vacation from your concerns about your romantic future. And what often happens when you go on vacation? Sometimes something totally unexpected and wonderful happens that you could have never predicted. You never know what might happen when you take a break from your routine.