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How To Win At The Game Of Internet Dating

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Don't take online dating so seriously, treat it like you're at a cocktail party.

I consider myself lucky. I met my husband through a matchmaking service just before internet dating came on the scene. At the time, that was the only alternative to finding a man to date the old fashioned way. I wrote a personal profile much like today and then a third party, the matchmaker, would pair me with a man they thought would be suitable. This made things a lot less complicated because I was being paired with men who were genuinely looking for a serious relationship.

But even in that seemingly safe situation, I had some strange experiences and not one of my first second matches led to a second date. Let me be honest, I have not done internet dating myself but I have walked through the dating process with many of my clients and I've learned plenty.

What I know for sure is that things haven't changed that much. What I needed then is the same thing you need now — a sense of humor.

If you don't think you have one or you've lost yours along the way, you need to cultivate one and there's no better place to do so than the world of internet dating.

You just can't take it all too seriously. I suggest you to apply the same attitude to dating that you'd use going to a cocktail party full of strangers. You have to look forward to seeing who might be there and hope you might meet someone who'll catch your eye. If you meet a man who is rude, a pest or just not for you, "move away" but don't leave the party! Keep reading ...


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