“Today has been the worst hours of my life. I lost my wallet, just as I finished with the customs clearance and pre-shipment of the boxes…Baby, the problem I have now is sorting out the agent and final shipment cost. I have called to block my cards. And I have invested so much on this. I feel like a broke man now…I am feeling so bad about it all. What I need now to pay the agent’s half of his fees is about 4,500 Pounds ($6,885 US). I wish I could just lend from you and pay you on Tuesday. I will be glad if this is possible Honey. I love you. Please get back to me as soon as possible.”
Well needless to say that message woke her up. She had been scammed. When she refused him and told him to stop writing her, he continued. As I write this he’s still texting her the name and address of the bank where she should send the money in London. He also keeps telling her that he loves her and can’t wait to see her and “whisper in her ear.”
It may seem obvious to you what had been going on but we can’t judge Marcie, we’ve all been in similar situations at some point in our lives. It kills me to see the damage that this kind of manipulation and betrayal can do. I know that Marcie is one of hundreds, maybe thousands of women being preyed upon on online.
Marcie thought she may have met her Mr. Right only to be deeply disappointed. The damage this can do to a woman’s self-esteem is devastating.
So much so that she was having a hard time following my instructions to report him to Match.com, but I’m happy to say today she did.
I shared Marcie’s story with you so you can recognize this kind of man if he approaches you on line. As they used to say on the TV show Hill Street Blues, “Be careful out there.”