Smart phones lead to dumb dates


Smart phones lead to dumb dates
Don't let your smart phones ruin your love life! 5 ways to control the beast

Smart phones lead to dumb dates

First date in Washington, D.C., one of the fanciest steak houses of the city. A couple is sitting by the huge window, so I can see clearly what is happening. Both woman and man are tensed, the situation seems a bit awkward, for sure they are on their first date. The young woman is nicely dressed, her makeup is perfect, her hair is wonderful. She did everything right so far except for one thing: she takes out her smart phone from her bag, and takes a call. The man does not know what to do and the situation gets even more awkward when she starts texting after ending the call.


The atmosphere of the date is totally ruined, because taking a call on your first date means: “You and this date are not that important that I quit working and talking to other people.”

Text instead of sex?

Our addiction to gadgets (and to the Internet, respectively) influences our lives more than we can imagine: recent study shows that almost half of 16-34-year-olds check office messages in bed, instead of having a romantic small talk or sex with their partners. This means we are bringing our work not only to our first dates but later also to our beds. Just as the D.C. date did not end well (as I could tell from the men’s face), our relationships will suffer if we pay more attention to our work life than to our love life.

Smart phones are highly addictive, and that means you have to be really conscious about using them in order to keep a healthy balance between your work life and your love life.

Here are 5 ways to help you control the beast:

1. Ask yourself: where’s my focus right now?

Every time you check your smart phone, tablet, Mac, etc., in the company of someone else, you are communicating that whatever is happening in your Inbox, FB profile or Twitter is more important than the person you are being with. Are you sure that is what you want to communicate? Be aware of the messages you are sending out – not just on your phone, but also in real life.

2. Switch it off: first impressions cannot be repeated.

Maybe you can excuse yourself in front of your friends, but what about going on a first date and checking your phone all the time? Not many things can be more important than finding the One, so don’t leave a bad impression in your date partner. Be strong: to avoid the temptation, switch off your Internet, or your entire phone when you are meeting someone.

3. Create Internet-free zones in your flat.

After getting my first smart phone, two months later I realized that I am taking it even to the bathroom just to use my time as effectively as possible. If you are on the Internet, you are not present. The thousand pieces of information you receive by the minute keep your brain “high” all day, leaving no space for relaxation.

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Viktoria Soos

Dating Coach

Certified life and dating coach, motivational trainer for singles, author of 3 books. Helping readers and clients to find the right direction since 2009.

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