In essence, soft-style lovemaking is a non-doing, non-striving, non-moving, non-ejaculating (for men), meditative method that inhibits male ejaculation and increases energetic awareness. This style of lovemaking epitomizes the meditative nature of tantric sex. At the risk of sounding silly, in stillness, the two lovers may appear, if you were watching from the outside, as one divine transcendental lump. Everything is accomplished by remaining outwardly motionless, but inwardly dynamic. As each lover’s surrender deepens, one barrier of resistance and rigidity after another is dissolved until the insatiable longing to know the essence of the sexual mysteries is finally realized. It can be deeply profound. Such encounters can be so very different from conventional friction sex as to be almost unrecognizable. Instead of foreplay, intercourse and afterward, the love play is seen as one organic whole ----- a period of profound emotional, physical and energetic connection. A variety of tangible physical sensations may become evident. Throbbing, warmth, tingles, pulsations, vibrations, and/or involuntary jerking movements may be felt at various places in the body, or even from head to toe.
Don’t misunderstand me ----- friction sex has its place. It is great for generating excitement. However, if you would like to have a more meditative, heart-centered and intimate experience, then the next time you are close to a genital release, cease all stimulating and thrusting movements, remain in the moment going nowhere, and become like butter melting in the sun.