LOCATING THE G-SPOT

By now, most men have heard of the G-spot, but have never attempted to locate it, let alone attempt to heal it. Likewise, many women are equally ignorant of its location and its potential for being healed. It is quite difficult for a woman to access her own G-spot without the help of a friend. Most women just don’t have the ability to feel it. As far as massaging it and awakening its healing potential, it’s probably just too physically awkward to easily do it alone unless a woman makes use of one of the massage tools designed for this purpose. Manufacturers are now creating vibrators and dildos that are curved to match the natural shape of the vagina with attachments for contacting the G-spot. However, for women who shun sex toys, or prefer human hands, the support of a playmate is essential.

If a woman is lying on her back, it’s hard for her to contact her G-spot because gravity tends to pull the internal organs down and away from the vaginal entrance. Unless she has long fingers and a short vaginal canal, the possibility of comfortably reaching it is remote. However, by squatting and exploring the upper front wall of the vagina, while pressing up towards the naval with a couple of fingers from the inside, and at the same time pressing down just above the pubic bone with the other hand, she can successfully massage the sexy hot spot.

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To the fingers, the G-spot feels like a small bean located directly behind the pubic bone, front and center, on the ceiling of the vagina. It’s generally about two inches into the vagina, but the exact size and location varies. If you could imagine a small clock inside the vagina with twelve o’clock pointing towards the naval, most women would find the G-spot in an area between eleven and one o’clock.

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While the clitoris tends to protrude from the surrounding tissue, the G-spot lies embedded deep inside the vaginal wall, quite well hidden. Until a woman is fully aroused, the G-spot will remain small and soft and virtually indistinguishable from the surrounding tissue. This probably explains why the G-spot has been overlooked for so long by the medical profession. After all, it’s not visible and just as the penis does not usually swell during a medical exam, neither does the G-spot. However, when a woman is fully aroused, the G-spot becomes engorged and swollen. At that point, it feels firmer to the touch than the surrounding tissue, almost ridged with well- defined edges in contrast to the smoother skin lining the rest of the vagina. As a matter of fact, it feels much like the areola of an excited nipple with the capacity to swell from the size of a dime to the size of a half dollar. Size, however, has no bearing on the level of responsiveness. There is no need to worry, small G-spots, like small penises, can still generate plenty of sexual pleasure.

It should be noted that when the G-spot is initially contacted, women often feel a burning sensation, or a sudden need to urinate since the spot lies so close to the bladder. These feelings usually pass in thirty seconds or so, after which more pleasurable feelings may arise. Because of this phenomenon, it is helpful for women to empty their bladder prior to the massage to ease any fears of urinating. Emptying the bladder will also help to isolate and identify the G-spot sensations as distinct from those of a full bladder.