If only men ejaculated less and women ejaculated more, the world would be a very different place.
By Victor Gold — Written on May 05, 2012
I find it fascinating that men place so much emphasis on their own ejaculations, often to their detriment (unlike women, men lose vital life-force energy with their discharge), while virtually ignoring women’s ejaculatory capacity. While the discovery of the G-spot may rank first in importance of all the “recent” sexual discoveries, female ejaculation is certainly more observably dramatic. Though female ejaculation is relatively new to modern sexology, tantric texts mentioned its existence thousands of years ago. In ancient times, it was viewed as fine nectar that was prized by the erotic connoisseur for its invigorating qualities.
What is female ejaculation exactly and how does it happen?
Female ejaculation involves the ejection of fluid gushing, squirting, seeping, spurting, or flowing through the urethra, most often, though not always at the moment of orgasm. It seems to have no lubricating significance otherwise it would be produced earlier in the arousal process. Scientific research has not yet identified any specific purpose this fluid might serve other than shear sexual pleasure. Unfortunately, since sexual pleasure is not given much credence in our culture, apparently there is not much incentive for male scientists to concern themselves with it. While male ejaculate is called semen, female ejaculate apparently doesn’t even warrant a name, and so, it has pretty much vanished from scientific texts. No wonder its existence was soon denied.
Disregarding the many descriptions of female ejaculation in both medical and popular literature throughout history, many contemporary sexologists have dismissed the phenomenon, often incorrectly diagnosing it as “urinary stress incontinence.” If they had taken the trouble to examine the ejaculate, they would have noticed that it doesn’t look or smell like urine. Furthermore, it is difficult to explain why women who ejaculate tend to have unusually strong pubococcygeus (PC) muscles, while urinary stress incontinence is associated with weak, flabby PC muscles. It’s hard to believe that these contradictions could go unnoticed by doctors who are presumably trained in the scientific method, but when it comes to sex, apparently even the most logical minds can cease to function.
For example, Masters and Johnson wrote that female ejaculation was “an erroneous, but widespread concept.” Earlier, Kinsey had maintained, “since the prostate gland and the seminal vesicles are only vestigial structures in the female, she does not actually ejaculate.” Even Germaine Greer, a prominent voice in the women’s liberation movement of the 70’s asserted that, “although the notion of female ejaculation has a prestigious history, it is utterly fanciful.”
Most likely the reason that so many authorities have doubted the existence of female ejaculation is that while it’s a highly noticeable phenomenon, most have never personally observed it. After all, it’s estimated that only about 40% of the sisterhood have ever ejaculated. There are several contributing factors. Though some women report they can ejaculate from clitoral stimulation alone, the vast majority of women require strong G-spot stimulation for thirty minutes, or even an hour or more, before they release their nectar. This requires either a lover with great staying power, or someone willing to provide a lengthy G-spot massage. If, however, these requirements are met, I believe any healthy, sexually open and receptive woman can ejaculate.