Connecting Families: A Relationship Enhancement Program

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Conduct the
activity by asking teams of two individuals to represent the male and female perspective in each
situation.
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Joe likes to just stay home and relax with Mary Ann. Mary Ann likes to go out because she
spends so much time home with the children. He says to her “Let’s spend the evening together.”
What is his assumption of a “relaxing evening?” What is her idea of a “relaxing evening?”
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Judy does most of the house work on a weekly basis, however, John spent the weekend mowing
grass and weeding the flowers. John says to her “Boy you should be proud of me for doing all of
this work.” What is his assumption and what is her’s about who does all of “this work.”
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Both Fred and Jane work full time to support their family. Fred is really upset that Mary spent so
much to buy a swimming pool for the kids. He says to her “Couldn’t you find something
cheaper? We are not made of money you know that.” What are his and her assumptions.
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Gary’s wife is sick and tells him that he needs to stay home to baby-sit for the children instead of
going to work. He is really upset. What are his and her assumptions?
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Bill’s mother is always coming over and cleaning up the house. He keeps telling Judy that she is
not being a “good housekeeper and wife.” They frequently fight about this. What is his and her
assumption?
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Ann’s son’s teacher called to report that he was caught smoking which is against school policy.
Ann thought she had smelled smoke on his clothes but Dan just said “not to worry.” What are his
and her assumptions?
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John works in an office that is relative ly stress free. June teachers middle school. She comes
home exhausted everyday. John wants to go out and do “fun” things several nights a week. June
complains that John is not being considerate by expecting her to go out so much. What is his
assumption and what is hers?
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Norman’s wife asks him frequently to stop on his way home to pick up a few items at the grocery
store. This really bothers him because she shops at least once a week for groceries. He usually
comes in and complains about having to stop. She gets mad and the evening is filled with
tension. What is his assumption and what is hers?
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Mary spends time every evening talking to her friends and sister. Doug just turns her off,
watches TV and goes to bed. She frequently tells her friends that Doug is dull and uninterested in
her and their relationship.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Veronica S. Haggerty

Counselor/Therapist

"A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best things that can happen to you. However, it can also be one of the biggest drains on you if the relationship is not working. Relationships are like bank accounts. The more you put in, the more you get back. Falling in love is the easy part, but long term relationships take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change through life as a team. Learn about ways to keep a healthy relationship strong, or begin to today to work on repairing trust and renewing love for a relationship on the rocks".

Location: New Hope, PA
Credentials: MA, MFT, RN
 
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