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What Makes Women Vulnerable To Hate Speech?
Why do some people sling sexual slurs at women? What makes women uniquely vulnerable to hate speech?

Words like "slut," "prostitute" and "whore" carry a powerful punch when directed toward a person with a female body. Calling into question a woman's sexual integrity can make her a "legitimate" target for all manner of punishment and "justify" persecution, ostracizing, rape, so called "honor" killings and other forms of brutality and murder. It is no wonder these words arouse anger and evoke terror.

We expect filth and stupidity to emanate from the likes of Rush Limbaugh. But his recent verbal barrage against Georgetown University law student, Sandra Fluke, has created consternation and concern for otherwise hardened reporters and practiced pundits. It would seem the only individuals who have evidenced a tolerance for this sort of diatribe are FOX news commentators and Republican presidential candidates such as Mitt Romney who proffered a milquetoast "It's not the language I would have used."

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I deplore Rush Limbaugh's use of the words "slut" and "prostitute." Yet I have been publicly referring to myself as a slut, a prostitute and whore for decades. In fact, I once told Howie Mandel during a guest appearance on Bill Maher's Politically Incorrect, that I preferred to be called a "whore." Why would I say such a thing?

The short answer is that the common usage of these words has applied to me at various stages in my life. I was promiscuous in college and so the word "slut" might have been an accurate label as labels go. And I worked as a prostitute from 1989 to 2004. But words such as "slut" and "prostitute" are not generally used as neutral descriptors. They are instead employed as instruments of shame and social control.

The word "whore" reigns supreme as a verbal indictment with the power to dismantle and destroy the lives of women. It is because women are still raped and murdered when that label has been affixed, that I chose to wear the word defiantly and proudly so many years ago. I have since furthered the concept of "honorary whore" meant to invite all women to abandon the bid for "good girl" status and reclaim a word which has been used to oppress women for thousands of years.

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"Honorary whore" does not distinguish those women whose behavior might include promiscuity or paid sex from those women who are monogamous, married, abstinent or celibate. It is meant to unite us in the fight against sexism, misogyny and the sexual double standard. For as long as we protest that we are not "sluts," "prostitutes" or "whores," we allow ourselves to be divided as women, making it imperative that we distinguish ourselves from "those other women" who "deserve" to be labeled "sluts," "prostitutes" and "whores."

The Slut Walks which sprang up last April in response to a Canadian constable who asserted that women should not wear "slutty" clothing if they don't want to get raped, brought together diverse women who often chose to don attire generally deemed "slutty" in order to make the point that they will no longer allow such distinctions to define women's right not to be raped. After all, attaching women's right to safety to their wardrobe is tantamount to making burqas mandatory.

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