Expert Blog Compelling advice, stories, and thought-provoking perspectives straight from YourTango's lineup of Experts to you

Platinum Handcuffs

Platinum Handcuffs

Do you wake up in the morning with the intention to conquer the world? Do you start the day with the intent to put the best you forward. Do you plan to have a knockdown drag out fight with fear? If you answered yes to all 3 of these questions but are not exactly where you want to be you could very well be wearing the least coveted fashion accessory there is “Platinum Handcuffs”.

Most women suffer from worrying about what people think syndrome…which doesn’t necessarily render positive results. Platinum Handcuffs are a metaphor for not maximizing your potential to the fullest. The Platinum Handcuffs are familiar bangles to the woman who is not living her dreams. The Platinum Handcuffs are invisibly worn by countless women all over the world. The women who sport these unfashionable accessories feel stuck; they make excuses for why they can’t change their lives. They say, “I would change my life but…” and then they insert an excuse for why they can’t be, do, or have more.


The reason women wear Platinum Handcuffs lurks beneath the surface of their lives; FEAR informs their thoughts and actions, keeping them stuck in repetitious, unproductive patterns. The most dangerous place for a woman to be…in her comfort zone. If the shoe fits, take it off…it’s the wrong size. You will make huge strides in life when you get comfortable being uncomfortable. When you are overcome with fear & you subliminally put on the Platinum Handcuffs as a sort of security blanket. The Platinum Handcuffs are not cold and unfamiliar; they are well-worn and very comfortable. In fact, a woman in the habit of wearing the Platinum Handcuffs feels naked without them! Her life has dents in it from where the handcuffs have left their mark. The Platinum Handcuffs are a c urse that appears to be a gift. They seem stable and secure – they seem to take away future uncertainty and provide comfort. However, security is an illusion. Helen Keller said, “Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it."Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure. Life is a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

Some women have flirted with the idea of removing the Platinum Handcuffs – they’re curious about what would happen if they took them off. There are other women who live in quiet desperation, wishing they could toss the Platinum Handcuffs into the abyss never to be seen again. Imagine the possibilities of a handcuff-free life. It’s all about you & self nurturing. Today is the perfect day to set yourself free!


POP on over to


Expert advice

Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
If you keep finding yourself in heartbreaking, dead end relationships, listen up.
It seems like you can't do anything right.