A Good Man Is Hard To Find...

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Say it isn't so...

This was the year I put myself back on the market. Yes I'm single. Is that a bad thing? You see when you know what you want dating gets easy but when you speak that which you don't. Dating can be hard. I hear so many women say "A Good Man Is Hard To Find". I don't want to get too phlisophical on you but if that's what you're saying. That's exactly what you're going to get. It doesn't take Rocket Science to figure that out. Ladies, we have to start focusing on the qualities that we are looking for in a man.

It can be crazy when a bunch of single girls get together. I'll admit in the past I too participated in man bashing. Today, I refrain from such things but I wanted to share with you what I do. I speak about men in a positive way and firmly believe a good man is easy to find. There may not always be chemistry or we may be facecd with geographical challenges but there are good men everywhere.

So, after I made the decision that I was ready to date. I opened up my red journal (red is the color of love) and wrote every quality that I was looking for in a man.

He's honest..

He's a good communicator...

He's thoughtful...

He's fun...

He's successful...

He's nice looking...

He has a healthy social life...

 

You get it...

When I'm speaking to my friends I talk about the qualities that I'm looking for. When I go out on a date. I immediately recognize some of those qualities and if he comes up short. I move on. No need to shout on the mountain type about how horrible he was. 

Let me give you an example, I dated a guy. I'll call him "C". We had one of the best first dates I ever had. It was difficult getting together because of our schedules so a week would go by between the dates. I noticed that he only wanted to text. I thought it was strange and shared with him that I was not interested in texting all the time. Well he started calling but whenever I called him back he wasn't available. I didn't feel comfortable and had to trust my feminine intuition. I politely texted him back that I wasn't interested in seeing him anymore. That was it and I moved on...Was he a good guy? Definitely, he just wasn't for me. Remember communication is important to me, if you only want to talk on the date but not after or before the date. It can't be that serious and this girl has got to start stepping. 

Nothing's wrong with having standards but be prepared to deliver on those standards in reverse. What does that mean?

Man, Oh Man…

If you desire a man that is fit- Are You Fit?
If you desire a man that is attractive-Are you making yourself attractive?
If you desire a strong, healthy man...Are you optimizing your health?
If you want a man that's all that...
Let me ask you a question...

ARE YOU???

If you have High Standards- Be ready to Raise your Bar.

Do you expect Mr. Right to show up on a white horse (though that would be nice)? ...

Do you have a laundry list of qualities that he must have when you haven't checked yourself?

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