When Sexual Abuse Rears It's Ugly Head

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When Sexual Abuse Rears It's Ugly Head
Sexual abuse is a trauma that affects heart level connections long after the fact.

If you have sexual abuse in your past it will affect future committed relationships.
It is important to get the help you need to work through those lost emotions.
While it may seem scary to look at the way your abuse harmed you, ultimately it
will be worth it to be free. A wise man once said, “what you can’t talk about
keeps you in bondage.”

It is important to find a therapist trained in helping people find freedom from
sexual abuse. No one needs to stay stuck in the cycle of sexual dysfunction in
order to survive. You can have courage and work through past hurts by
1) Identifying lost emotions connected to the violations
2) Grieving the cost of the abuse in a safe place
3) Moving from a victim mindset to that of a responsible person who
knows how to feel and trust.

Again, going through the pain at looking at your past secrets will make life worth
living again…to yourself and to your loved ones.

You can see how past sexual abuse might be affecting you by taking the sexual
abuse self test on the navigation bar of www.missingpieces.org.

This article was originally published at Missing Pieces . Reprinted with permission.
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Helping women process grief after voluntary pregnancy termination without fear.

Bringing abortion after-care into the 21st century by educating professionals.

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