Admit you can’t keep the secret anymore. As in any path to healing in life, it is important you be honest with yourself. Give yourself permission to re-visit the “abortion-box” no matter how long you’ve had it stashed away in your mind. Face the truth that keeping the secret is requiring much more energy than you have available to give to it anymore.
Give yourself a break. Many times if we can’t find others to condemn and punish us, we will take over the job ourselves! Understand that abortion can involve many losses even separate from the pregnancy. Give yourself permission to label the losses and feel the emotions of those losses.
Don’t confuse the legal, political and religious debates with your own personal journey. If you listen to all the rhetoric from both sides you will become paralyzed with fear and confusion. Know that walking this journey will be worth it from your own personal perspective. Freeing the space taken up in your heart and mind with this secret will help you move toward positive outcomes in your life.
Be encouraged! Know that you are not alone! Many other women are caught off guard after an abortion choice. You are not alone in your quest to process through the sadness you may be feeling and the confusion you experience when you look for answers.
C.P.R. ~ Choice Processing and Resolution, endorsed by Dr. Christiane Northrup, M.D., F.A.C.O.G and author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, is a great resource you can use to begin the journey of looking at grief after an abortion choice. It has a concise plan you can follow to look at the sadness. You can work through the entire book in the privacy of your home or with the help of your professional therapist guiding you.