Why Do Men Do THAT? Answers To Your Top 10 Questions

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4. He said, "I love you, but I’m not IN love with you."
MYSTERY SOLVED:
Hearing these words sting and confuse the heart like no other sentiment.  Sugarcoating aside, any way you cut it, this statement translates to "You are completely amazing, but you are not the girl for me." It could be coming from a guy who used to be in love with you but isn't any longer or it could be from a guy who has put you permanently in the friend zone, regardless of if you have been intimate of not.

5. The less interest you show in him, the more he wants to be with you.
MYSTERY SOLVED:
It feels like you are reliving third grade all over again. You pay attention to him—he ignores you; you don't and he can't get enough! This is a classic case of immature game playing coming from a guy who enjoys the chase of dating more than the idea of an actual relationship which offers little opportunity to win or to lose. Baked into this type of guy's being is the thrill of the pursuit—it gives him a high of power and if you play into it, well you are playing his game. Show him zero interest though and eventually he will find another opponent because it is no fun to play against yourself.

 

6. He flirts with other women... IN FRONT OF YOU!
MYSTERY SOLVED:
His ace flirting skills may be just the thing that scored your interest but seeing him perform in front of you on other women has you steaming mad... and rightfully so! This man mystery can occur for a few reasons depending on the guy and his intent. First, he could just be a disrespectful pig, who is well, just not that into you and is scouting alternatives right there in front of you. If that's not the case, he may possibly be trying to make you jealous. He wants you to know that you aren't his only option—that you need to stay on your toes. Further this could be his subversive way of showing you that you aren't paying him enough attention. Finally, he might not be flirting at all and maybe you are just being paranoid. The thing is he could just be a friendly guy and just because you are dating him, although he needs to be respectful of your feelings and needs, doesn't mean he has to stop being friendly.

7. He won't stop for directions.
MYSTERY SOLVED:
You've been lost for an hour but your man swears he knows where he is going. Despite your bubbling aggravation, he refuses to stop for directions. This one universally applies to men because universally, men don't like to be one-upped by other men, especially around their lady. If he pulls over to ask someone else for directions, you might see the other guy as smarter. Caveman like indeed, but you can’t really blame him for wanting to impress you—his heart is in the right place, even if his ego isn't.

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Tristan Coopersmith

Marriage and Family Therapist

Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi
www.tristancoopersmith.com

Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, MFTI
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