Lately I’ve been asking random strangers at coffee shops and bars, neighbors on planes, people on street corners waiting to cross in the same direction as me, customers in line at grocery stores, drug stores and just about every other place, one single question, “What’s the greatest thing in life you can have?” The answer keeps coming up the same: Love. It seems no matter who I ask – young or old, boy or girl, single or married: they all perceive love as life’s greatest commodity. Some of my questioning with these strangers led to deeper conversation which proved what I think we all know: that most of us in theory are willing to do whatever it takes to get that magic dose of greatness that we either have and hope to hold onto, had and lost and desire to have again, or have only fantasized about and dream of having someday. I say “in theory” because when it comes down to it, many of us are pretty love lazy. We’ll put our blood, sweat and tears into achieving in our education, our careers and so on, but when it comes to winning at love, we get pretty beat down after only minimal effort resorting to waiting in our castles for our prince to trot along and scoop us up. If only.
Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi
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